Labelled as the bad one

[Vaveen088]

I have a SD living with us full time. She started after school games which I didn't mind helping out with pick up and drop offs and the family would help out if I can not ...

Now keep in mind all her games are at the school.

But this New game is apparently in different locations which means I am expected to pick up from school then drop of different locations and wait everyday with my 2 little girls

1 week later i took SD to school and she said
" I started a new game now" .
And I replied "well me and your dad have not agreed to this yet ". Then SD said well I am going to do it eaither way..
with my response "like I said I'll have to discuss it "

So I call my partner and told him I hope you have someone to help out on this one because I already discussed I won't be doing this one I was so frustrated and
said "you can not have me running around because both you and her mom are not involved:

So this is where it starts to really pick up. I received phone calls from family about well SD upset because she has nobody to drop or pick her from this NEW game she randomly started . And then I had to kindly explained am not able to get g'involved on this one and I do not need to explain my reson

So now I am labeled the evil/selfish step mom for crushing SD dreams simply because I do not want to go out my way . My husband and his family just randomly assumes your his step mom and no one else can do it what's the problem

Then family says we can help on 1 day then it came to my senses no because 1 day Is not really enough so regardless I won't be able to

So Sd is upset because dad told her there is no one to get you from these games for now

My own mother told me I should of stopped this along time ago because what tends to happen when SP gets involved both BM and dad do a disappearing act

now I am officially the selfish one for not helping out and crushing her dreams. I have helped in all games and I get she a kid and doesn't understand adults can't always adjust their time but yes I am the evil step mom for not helping out on this one

How is that even a point? If she is a stay at home mum it doesn’t make her a slave to all demands!

1 week later i took SD to school and she said
" I started a new game now" .

Did she not need a consent form signed? It’s very odd that a child starts a new game or out of school activity without a consent form as they always need to have emergency contact numbers etc on them. If this in an extra game for something they l ready attend surely one of the parents would have had to consent to it?

Op unless I’ve missed a post, you don’t state if the little girls are shared, because if not, that makes this request 1000x more unacceptable.

I hope it’s not the case.

Apologies, you did say siblings. In any case either way no, you don’t have to do this and you sound like a lovely mum both to your own D.C. and your SDC