Partner’s ex wife

[Newmum2023x]

help!! My partner and I have been together for 2 years and we are expecting our first child together next week!! He was married previously and has a child from that marriage.
His ex wife is constantly trying to get attention off him and causing issues. She has called him a sperm donor and doesn’t want him to have anything to do with their child. Her family will post things on social media, calling him a terrible father etc. They hate me and have never even met me! I understand it’s the ‘norm’ to hate your ex husbands new partner, but I haven’t done anything wrong and have never had any interaction with them. He ignores it and just cracks on, but it really gets to me and I am worried about the impact this will have on our child and our family. I’ve had a really bad experience during my pregnancy as he was going through the steps to get a court order in place due to his ex wife’s behaviour, so it felt like all that was relevant was that. I don’t blame him, as she’s made him feel so inadequate, and I understand it’s natural for him to worry about what he says or does in regards to his other child, but I can’t help but worry that this is going to last forever.

Sorry this is so long, any advice at all would be extremely appreciated.

@Housesellingnightmare "2 years is 2 years longer than you've known him so presumably she knows the situation better than you do. It's offensive."

<shrugs> Feel free to report my post.

@Housesellingnightmare "You can't report someone for just being ignorant unfortunately."

You can for being offensive.

I hate to be cynical, but I largely agree with this. Obviously, assuming her DP genuinely is committed to his original child, doing the work to see her and support her, great. But it does sound like an awful lot of drama, possibly because he got into a relationship too soon?

Having said that, she's in it now so she has to protect herself and the best way is to distance yourself from all of this. He must sort it out between him and his ex. It's not on you.

Not necessarily, no. My DH’s ex wife didn’t turn full batshit crazy until the run up to our wedding. Prior to that, she’d had her odd moments, but nothing major.

Major relationship events seem to trigger some people and any resentful feelings they have

It will get better when she meets someone else. She's just jealous

That is good advice.

When DH's ex was being argumentative I didn't want it to influence how I felt about the DSC. The reason she was in my life was because my DH had children with her but that wasn't their fault.

Not always the case, unfortunately.

Not necessarily.

May have no relationship like me but an DP's ex who has threatened the well-being of her child(ren).

for goodness sake! there is a block button on facebook, use it! your hubbie also needs to use it. as long as she can contact him on one phone!

Tbh having been a step mum for 6 years now, own child and marriage, the high conflict ex has yet to mellow out and still regularly causes massive issues out of spite and bitterness and regularly says horrible stuff in front of and to the children about their dad. Eventually your DP child will be grown and you won’t have to have any contact with her anymore so there’s always that.