Changing RP and contact through court order?

[ForeverShark]

Hi, I’m looking for anyone with experience in challenging and changing the resident parent and custody agreement, through court if necessary.

DP and I have become increasingly
worried about DP’s ex and her mild neglect/negligence where DSC is concerned, resulting most recently in one DSC being admitted to hospital.

It’s mostly things that would go under most peoples radar, but it’s enough for DP to want to push for 70/30 minimum, so as to provide the majority of care.

Currently it’s 50/50 with DP’s ex with an informal arrangement in place and DP’s ex is RP.

Does anyone have any experience in taking the matter to court to be resolved? DP’s ex wouldn’t agree if asked.

Thanks in advance.

Can the older siblings help with the preventer inhaler?

Regarding the weight, do you mean overweight? Because I don’t think SS will reduce contact on over feeding or poor diet in that context. Might be different if under feeding.

Some children are more prone to over eating than others.

A preventer inhaler would not prevent a chest infection, it reduces the wheezing background levels. There are some riproaring bugs around at the moment but asthmatic DCs pick up chest infections easily and a sterid preventer inhaler does not stop that

Asthma admissions can be so variable and an unknown trigger et off an attack even with all meds on board.

Hi all,

Thank you for all your viewpoints and advice, I’m going to step away from this thread now as there is a lot to think about.

There is obviously more to this but I feel giving two years of back story would be very outing.

Again, I really appreciate the different viewpoints and will share this with DP.

💐

If the hospital didn't see fit to make a safeguarding referral about the lack of preventive inhaler then unfortunately you won't have a leg to stand on.

If your DP has spent the last 2-3 yrs "critiquing" Mums parenting then I can imagine the situation has deteriorated.
You say mild neglect that most people would not notice which sounds like nit picking.
If school GP and hospital have not done anything then it really does seem to be one sided.
Any parent takes criticism of their parenting badly and this sounds like a constant stream of small things - my EX started like this until it got to being reported. Absolutely nothing found to be wrong at my house, their meds, schooling, social skills etc - it was a horrendous process to go through and left me second guessing myself every time they sneezed, coughed or fell over. Took me a few years to regain my equlibrium.

I could have gone tit for tat but refuse to stoop to that level - lets be honest my DCs slept in the laundry room with the washing machine and drier when at their Dads.
This thread has triggered me massively

@RandomMess what's the financial agreement got to do with it?

I think the responses would be very different if a woman posted similar concerns about her ex.
In fact, men are often heavily criticized on here for not increasing their time with the kids if there are concerns about the mum's parenting.