Meeting DP children too early

[SummerDawn2000]

Been with partner for 8 months
I don’t live with him
his two sons are 15 and 22
he’s been divorce from his wife 9 years
briefly met the both of them for five mins

would it be best if I wait a year to have a longer meet with them? I don’t want to mess it up.

youngest is doing his mocks and soon his GCSEs. For the short meet he didn’t look at me which I understand as I’m new and DP previous partner who he was with for six years was tbf not the best.

I was thinking maybe we could all go for a coffee for an hour some where and I leave?

I dont want to rush things. Obviously they know of my existence etc but is this too soon? There is also an age gap between myself and my partner
DP says take it slow and just meet them, speak to them like individuals etc which is I think good advice

should I just back off? I’d like to meet them and form something more if they want to (DP says they wouldn’t care either way).

ohew a long post
TIA

@toomuchlaundry does your ex now have a younger partner? I'm sensing some kind of projection going on here...

As the op says, he's a 22 year old man. He doesn't need a step mother.

No ex here @NewNameNigel but if we were to separate I can’t imagine DS would be too impressed if DH bought home a partner who had more in common with DS than DH.

Big age gap. His previous partner "not the best" His kids 15 and 22.
To he honest- I doubt if you'll be seeing much of them. And, for the love of god, @SummerDawn2000 don't get pregnant.

How do you know she has more in common with the DS? You know nothing about her or the DS.
Do you have any advice for the OP or did you just come tell berate her for being an age you disapprove of?

@CurlewKate youngest visits every other Sunday. Also what’s it to you if I do get pregnant (not planning to at this stage) Who are you to tell women whether or not to become pregnant ? My question wasn’t about becoming pregnant but about about how to best be with DP children.