Who get the bigger room!?

[Motherhood86]

To cut a long story short my partner and I have blended our families. I have 1 son 14 yrs and he has 1 son 13 yrs.
All lived together for about 6 months in 3 bedroom house, due to landlord selling house we have to temporarily move back to my old 2 bed flat.

My partner and I will sleep in living room, leaving larger bedroom which used to be mine and smaller one which was my Son's.

How do we decide who gets bigger room?

Just for context current house both the boys rooms are same size and also duration in flat shouldn't be much longer than 3 months.

• meant to say 6 months not 3.

I'd put your son into his old room.

Honestly, just toss a coin. There's no right answer here.

Or do 3 months then 3 months .

Bunkbeds in one room and you and your partner in the other.

You sleep in main room.
They share.

Do they get on?

Do they both spend the same proportion of time with you?

Can you fit your bed in your sons old room? If so, you and DH go in there and the two boys share the bigger bedroom.
Not having a proper living room will impact on everyone

If it’s temporary, then 3 months each or toss a coin. My brothers shared a room for over 20 years, would they prefer to share.

Either they share or your son goes back into old room. The space overall will feel more “home” for him than it will for SS given history so don’t add to that by giving your son the bigger room.

(also, it doesn’t matter and they can suck it up either way!)

I’d start by asking your DS if he wants his old room back. If he doesn’t, then toss a coin.

Yes, this.
Boys share the big room.
Squeeze a double into small room for you + DH.

If the boys need space, the one can then chill in the sitting room whilst the other is in bedroom.

Either way you sound like a very nice parent. Let them share the big room if you can get a double in the small room.

I wouldn't be sleeping in the living room so they would share the larger room.

Just put them together in one bedroom and you take the other.

That's why people have bedrooms, to sleep in. So use them.

Agree them in one room and you in the other. If that really won’t work then whoever is there the most gets the choice. If they are both there the same or close, toss a coin and give them the choice.

Thanks for replies, our plan was initially to have them share the larger room just with them not being actual brothers thought might be a bad idea. So far aside from normal bicker now and again they get on great. Worried being in each others space so much may ruin that.

Are they both their 100% of the time?

I would have them share a room and you and your partner have the other room.

they share the big room, you get the smaller one. Then there is still living room if one wants to get away from the other. Maybe a divider or something as well for their bedroom?

Maybe agree they can have a weekend night having the room to themselves each... One chills in the lounge with you and dp until bedtime Fri /Sat.

Best all around if you can fit a double bed in the smaller room and boys share the larger room. This gives you a living room you can all use.

Another vote for them sharing bigger room. Not having a living room is going to be a pain for everyone.

They share the big room and you get a room.