I’m so annoyed at my DH, but questioning whether I spoke out of turn.
We had a disagreement over the weekend, he couldn’t understand why I was frustrated that I’d wanted to do something and he made no effort. I was trying to explain to him that we both have to make effort and I’m frustrated that it feels one-sided (we’ve had this discussion a few times), I gave an example that he wanted to do something this weekend which took him out of the house for a couple of hours, leaving me to look after his DD, which I didn’t mind because it should be give and take (he told me he was going out rather than asking if I minded looking after her). Anyway, we were going round in circles a bit and he made it into an argument, making out like I had an issue with him going out and me looking after his DD. I explained I had no issue, I was just using it as an example that I supported what he wanted to do and babysat his DD. He said “you don’t babysit your own kids”, I said “but she’s not mine, but I didn’t mind because that’s how it should be”…he went off on one about how I was out of order because I said she isn’t mine. I reminded him that I have been put in my place plenty of times that I’m not her mum and I get no say in anything to do with her, but I still treat her like she’s my own. He on the other hand does not treat my DC like his own.
I don’t know whether what I said was genuinely hurtful or he was just using it to try and “win” the argument, given it’s factual and I’m reminded of my place. Would others be hurt by this, in these circumstances?