I am so frustrated by this, and we just booked a holiday with SC’s so I am worrying now this is going to be even more of a problem than it is becoming!
DP has small DC’s and he will often say no to something and offer a vague explanation of ‘later on’. Today I have just spent 6 hours listening to them ask him over and over for a number of things, and him just eventually give in. Like he will say ‘no I can’t carry you I have a bad back’ then 5 mins later pick DC up anyway.
I end up walking off as I am fed up the whole day has been dominated and revolved around these petty requests (normal for kids but not to this extent). I told him I am cross that they just keep badgering him for another answer and it is the only topic of conversation - so we are out for the day and instead of all being able to chat and look at things and have fun, we are basically just talking about this thing they want. Today it was a lollipop and a toy. DP said no to lollipop now, not now, you picked at your lunch and had plenty of treats today and let’s look for toys with pocket money.
The DC then spent the next few hours interrupting all conversations to ask ‘can I have lolly now?’ I asked DC to choose between keeping the item with them, and stopping asking, or handing it to DP to keep because they needed to listen that no means no. They said they wanted to keep it and stopped asking. DP and I reiterated when they could eat it, later at X point.
I left the area for 5 mins and came back to hear a DC asking THE SAME QUESTION can I eat it now?, and DP just calmly saying ‘no’. If it was me I would have taken it off them hours ago and just put it out of sight, but it’s almost worse they still have it, because they obsessively fixate on it. I even end up saying to him OMG just let them have now so we don’t have to keep talking about this thing. It is crazy making and day ruining and I don’t know if I am just being a grumpy old cow or not? WWYD?
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Menora · 13/05/2023 18:10
Irritateandunreasonable · 13/05/2023 18:14
My kids do this and it drives me fucking mental 🤣.
It’s just annoying, children can be relentless.
EezyOozy · 13/05/2023 18:13
Do you have children of your own? I have two small children and they can be very annoying - the behaviour you describe sounds quite normal. Like many parents I often give in for an easy life. Not sure there is much you can do.
Lovingitallnow · 13/05/2023 18:16
to be fair if my dc had a lolly pop in their hand we wouldn't hear the end of it until it was eaten. If it was stashed in our bag we'd probably only hear about it every 20 mins or so.
Velvian · 13/05/2023 18:24
Just let them eat the lollipop, then you can all move on with your lives.
TheSnowyOwl · 13/05/2023 18:32
What you describe isn’t unusual although you sound as though it’s not how you do things so it surprises you.
You either need to accept and live with his parenting choices and decisions or leave and move on.
tara66 · 13/05/2023 18:54
I do not understand. Why are sweets, lollies or whatever given to the children and then they are told they cannot eat them until a future time? Not even a given time say at 3.00pm - it is some future vague time. Very odd. Of course they will be asking ''Can I eat it now?''. Also you say you will have a lot of sweets in car when driving and children know that and probably can see them etc but they are not allowed to have them and you want to throw them out of car rather than give any to them? Do not buy any sweets or lollies to torment your step children - better for their teeth anyway and dentists are really hard to find.
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tara66 · 13/05/2023 18:54
I do not understand. Why are sweets, lollies or whatever given to the children and then they are told they cannot eat them until a future time? Not even a given time say at 3.00pm - it is some future vague time. Very odd. Of course they will be asking ''Can I eat it now?''. Also you say you will have a lot of sweets in car when driving and children know that and probably can see them etc but they are not allowed to have them and you want to throw them out of car rather than give any to them? Do not buy any sweets or lollies to torment your step children - better for their teeth anyway and dentists are really hard to find.
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