Stepson staying over

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What age will step kids not really stay over WEEKLY or more?
Late teens would you say? Oh yes call me wicked step mother 😂 I don't hate the kids but it does come with a lot of stress, I'm just thinking things will be much more chill when they're grown up and not sleeping over every week... can start planning things I actually want to do as a couple or with my children. (11 year gap between SS and my twin boys)
Any other step mothers here sometimes struggle or dread them coming over??
Vent here please I need to know!
And anyone judging, different people have different situations, if you're completely infatuated with your step kids and would like to gush about them on here then this post ain't for you. Peace!

Probably about 18 and 20s for us. 50/50. Yes it could be stressful but, I love it when they stop over now at late 20s. So much fun, and they love their little sister. I would choose to spend spare time with them.

Why is it assumed the mother is the one who has to house children when they reach adulthood but haven’t yet left home?

DH never had an issue with providing accommodation for DSS post-18, but we both wanted to ditch the strict rota. Thankfully he went to uni so the situation resolved itself

Absolutely! I can't believe the posts on here saying that by late teens they don't need to be with their dads every week. Where do you think they are then? Sorry but so many vile posters on this thread, I feel for so many children from broken homes.

I mean, that's what I did with my own child until she left home. Her dad moved house and didn't have a bedroom for her. It's madness maintaining two bedrooms at two houses. I'd like to retire and downsize - I'm not interested in having adult kids living with me.

Both our DC have reached adulthood or thereabouts and they still mainly do a 50/50 split. That's their choice. They'll always have that choice, they'll always have their beds ready for them. Sometimes they stay at one more than the other but it depends on what's going on in their lives. They can come and go as they please. They have two homes.