Lost Myself

[KVBM]

Am I being selfish or is this a normal step-parent phase?
I've recently moved in with my partner who had a 5yo son - he's with us 4 days and his Mum 3. I feel like I have completely lost who I was and I'm wondering whether I have made the right decision moving in. I've lost friends, I don't sleep (5yo is constantly getting in our bed which means I'm awake until the next night), I don't take care of myself, and I no longer enjoy work in the way I used to due to having no energy whatsoever (I'm a teacher). I haven't spoken to my partner about how I'm feeling because he shuts down if anything is spoken about his son that isn't praise. What do I do? Has anyone been in this situation before? I feel like I've slotted into someone else's life and completely lost my own.

Sounds like you are making all the sacrifices and your man hasn’t. Probably thinks he’s gained a bedwarmer, baby sitter, house keeper and general doormat. Why have you stopped seeing your friends? You need socialisation outside your relationship. Everyone does. SS needs to be sleeping in his own bed. DP can go lay down with him. A lot of parents do. They get to spend time together and you get your bed back. You are feeling this way because you are tired, stressed and cranky from lack of rest. Anyone would. Set boundaries NOW.

Why do some men prey on women at least a decade younger? Is it because nobody their age if they were right on the head would sign up to this ??

Leave while u still can. And read Stepmonster the book. If I only read it before become a Stepmonster I would had make a more real decision. But no.. I was entitled enought to believe that with me things would be different.