AIBU to tell DH to remove my email address from school list!

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DSC started secondary last year, my husband has a habit of using my email address for things as he rarely checks his own whereas I use mine most days for things like work (self employed).

Anyway, he thought it appropriate without telling me to put my email address down for DSCs school communications and now, as well as getting bombarded with emails from our own kids childcare / school, I'm also getting emails left right and centre from DSCs school too. Their mum gets them as well I think.

Basically shit hit the fan recently as we all missed an email about a school trip and DSC couldn't go in the end because it was too late.

I'm fed up of having to go through these bloody newsletters and everything, AIBU to tell DH to remove my email address and either check his own or get their mum to sort it out.

For the sake of the child the parents need to step up and do their jobs instead of foisting it off to a step parent. Why is it that whenever it’s a ‘family’ job it seems to become the Stepmother’s job? If he doesn’t check his email then he should learn to do that - it’s not rocket science.

Contact the school, say they've been given the wrong contact details and provide the Dad's email address. If he doesn't check emails that's fine, but at least you've removed yourself from the responsibility. Shame the DSS has to miss out, but perhaps missed school trips will be the kick up the bum his parents need.

But OP wanted to check if her expectation was reasonable ,that sorting out DSCs school emails was a parental responsibility.

I would say it very much is - as do most posters.

People saying "it's not about wife work, it's about who regularly checks their emails" - don't you think maybe the child's father should START regularly checking his emails, because of correspondence he might miss otherwise?

Wives are not fucking secretaries!

Ugh, that would really piss me off. It’s so lazy of him. How fucking hard is it to check an email account? It’s basically saying ‘lowly woman, you deal with boring school shit, for I am busy and important man.’

Block it. If he misses out on stuff, tough shit. And tell him he’s a prick for doing it.

You’re telling me op didn’t see an email about a school trip when she was checking her emails?

@Afterfire are you implying that the OP is lying and didn't mention the email out of spite? That's a bit of a leap.

Do you think the child's parents did this too or just the OP?

I quite often post here and I have never heard a step parent saying they'd do anything like that ...

Also, if the OP did does this mean that the parents did too? After all, the email also went to them and really they should surely be looking out for things that pertain to their children.

What is this drama you talk about.

It was asked if it was unreasonable to ask the DH to remove the email address, majority said not unreasonable and that was it.

Not seeing this huge drama you're making out there is to be honest.

Yes he can learn to check his own emails

Contact the school yourself and change the email address to his.

Tell him afterwards once you've done it.

You are very invested. Seems like you like the drama tbh!

It's "dramatic" to object to a man fostering childcare responsibilities onto the nearest woman.

In other words, "pipe down woman, know your place".

Was OP supposed to call each of the child's parents to make sure they saw the email about it the school trip?
I don't understand.

Ha! Yes maybe she was meant to forward it to dad cc.ing in mum..

Ohh but then the OP would be accused of over stepping....