Yet another bedroom question

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I’ll try to keep it short!

We have DSS(6) one night a week, most weeks, and a bit more during the holidays. We also have DS 6 months. I hope we will have a second baby in next 1-3 years (universe permitting!)

We are moving to a new house with three beds. Second bedroom could easily fit two single beds, third can fit a double but not two singles.

I am unsure about how to allocate rooms, mostly as I don’t know who will need to share in future with younger and possibly opposite sex sibling.

Do we:

A) give DSS(6) larger bedroom because he’s older and could share with his little brother in future, leaving the other room for baby and meaning that resident DC have bedrooms to themselves most of the time

B) Give DS(6mo) larger bedroom because he is resident and he can share with his future sibling who will be closer in age, also means DSS has his own space and doesn’t need to share

I was thinking that if we give DSS the larger bedroom, it would be with the proviso that he’d be expected to share and if in future he wants a bedroom to himself, he’d have to accept moving to the smaller bedroom.

Thoughts?!

I wouldnt put a baby in with anyone.

id make the small room the nursery. Move the baby out of the nursery at 2 in with his older brother. Explain that is the plan from the start.

3rd baby, if there is one, goes in the nursery as the nurse try is for babies.

I think we will likely move before the younger ones are preteens so I’m hoping this set up will keep us going for some time yet. We can’t afford a forth bedroom right now but should be able to in 5+ years or so.

I guess not everyone can afford a bedroom for every child though. I am one of five and we didn’t have a six bedroom house. We were perfectly happy!

Yup this. Don't worry about anything future children until they are here kids can swap rooms it's fine.

I think just put them one in each room, resident child in larger room, and then see if you need to change things if / when you have another as a newborn should sleep with you up to 6 months anyway.

Agree with DSS in smaller room and DS in larger room. If there’s a new baby in a few years then you could deal with it then. If all goes to plan, the prospective baby and DS would be a few years apart in age so could easily share for quite a few years even if different sexes. And the prospective baby could go in with you for at lest the first few months.

Yep

@WinterMusings
None of your ranting relates to what OP was asking….back off! Christ alive.

OP, my thoughts….

DS has larger bedroom and DSS has smaller bedroom. If/when another baby comes along then baby has the smaller room and DSS then shares with DS. Seems daft to make them share now when there’s a bedroom spare.

@holachicas

you felt the need to stick your neb into something that doesn't concern you EIGHT MONTHS later??

i think it's you that needs to back off!

DSS needs his own room. I think it’s really important he has us own dedicated space at his Dad’s house as opposed to bunking up in his brothers room which could make him feel like he’s just a visitor.

Anyone who stays one night per week is actually a visitor, let’s not pretend otherwise

Reviving a thread just to start a fight. 😂

I'd have both boys in bigger room with bunk bed. I think it works best as no one has to move room when baby arrives.

I shared a room at my dad's house and would never have given it a second thought!

When I visited my mother, I always slept in my younger brother's bedroom. I suppose it's different as we were blood related, but we really enjoyed it and we had a great bond because of it. Some of my best memories.

I'm a girl btw.

Well, was a girl!

I appreciate this is a step child scenario - but I think the age difference is the biggest factor. I wouldn't put a 6 month old in with a six year old as the baby is likely to wake them and I would be a little concerned about small toy pieces finding their way into the cot.

When your second child arrives - then if the gap is small then I would put them together until they want a change or want more privacy. Then I would have boys room and a girls room - but the six year difference will be a challenge, and your DSS age may necessitate privacy. I appreciate most people did share a room in the past but the age gaps tended to be smaller and we weren't as aware of children's need for privacy then.
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