On the grand scheme of things I know there are worst things in life but I feel conflicted.
Adult DSCs ignored my toddler, their half sibling's birthday. Not even a text to their dad to say anything. There was no drama ever, I was no other woman, we have been married for years, everything is amicable. We all are friendly. They just never show any interest. They would interact with my little person a bit when they are here, but it feels always with reluctance. It is starting to cause upset my little one.
There is a huge age gap, I get it. If they don't want any relationship it is fine with me. What I feel very angry about is this fake pretence of my little person actually having siblings. I get annoyed when their dad talks to my toddler mentioning 'big brother/sister'. Would I be unreasonable to ask him to stop? Just because he has other children it doesn't mean my toddler has sibling in reality. Would be nice if they had relationship, but I would rather not build any expectations for my little child. I don't want my toddler to think he did something wrong/ not good enough that his siblings completely ignore him.
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Adult DSC ignored toddler's birthday
Notimportantbut · 12/06/2022 17:02
Ragwort · 12/06/2022 17:17
I think you expectations aren't far too high. How old are adult DSC? Many young adults (my own DS included) are just not interested in birthdays, 'family' celebrations at all .. even their own.
I am sure your toddler doesn't know or care if he gets a birthday card from his half sister/brother.
axolotlfloof · 12/06/2022 17:44
Toddler doesn't care, so why get offended on their behalf.
They may build a good relationship when older.
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