Stepson causing problems with relationship

[Dolly3092]

Hello Mums

So I find myself coming to this platform to share a problem that I have been experiencing for quite some time now in the hope that someone has dealt with a similar issue and can help or give advice or something, I don't really know what I'm after tbh I just needed to rant!

So I live with my partner, I have a daughter from a previous relationship, my partner has 2 children from a previous relationship and I am currently pregnant with our first child together, myself and my partner get on so so well, however, for a while now, my partners sons behaviour and attitude towards me is just awful. He's honestly so horrible towards me, and my partner does see it and tells him off but also let's him get away with things because it's upsetting for my partner to see the way he is with me as he didn't bring him up to be like that. It's now got to the point where I am constantly upset and questioning how on earth this relationship is going to work when we are constantly arguing over my stepson.

I guess what I'm hoping for from this thread is, has anyone else been through a similar situation and if so, what was the outcome?

Really hoping to hear from someone

Ahhh I missed that part but your right if they haven't ever met mum then that it's probably true and rather sad

I suppose that raises the spectre of maybe a mental illness at place with DC though, the kid which ever way it's sliced needs some support mentality that's for sure !

If Dad raised DSS for several years before moving in with the OP, they could have developed a buddy buddy bff dynamic between them, instead of Father-->Son. You then get pecking order issues, because the lad has acquired equal status to Dad - and OP challenges that by pushing him back down to child. DSS isn't taking it - and fights back in this unhelpful fashion.

He is 8/9
Met OP when he was 3/4
OP been present for 5 yrs - will assume 2 yrs before they all moved in ( sorry if wrong)
So he was 5/6 when he found he was sharing Dad with new "mum" and another child. Also the start of school. From being Dads - no 1 priority he is having to learnt o share.

Within a year there is another baby on the way

Alot for a little boy to deal with - no mum, starting to notice he does not have a parents like other kids. Bit of self identity and not liking sharing Dad.

He is doing stuff so Da gives him attention - bad or good and taking it away from others.

He is jealous and needs help to organise his feelings and explanations as to why his mum is no longer on the scene.

Time for some counselling