Hello Mums
So I find myself coming to this platform to share a problem that I have been experiencing for quite some time now in the hope that someone has dealt with a similar issue and can help or give advice or something, I don't really know what I'm after tbh I just needed to rant!
So I live with my partner, I have a daughter from a previous relationship, my partner has 2 children from a previous relationship and I am currently pregnant with our first child together, myself and my partner get on so so well, however, for a while now, my partners sons behaviour and attitude towards me is just awful. He's honestly so horrible towards me, and my partner does see it and tells him off but also let's him get away with things because it's upsetting for my partner to see the way he is with me as he didn't bring him up to be like that. It's now got to the point where I am constantly upset and questioning how on earth this relationship is going to work when we are constantly arguing over my stepson.
I guess what I'm hoping for from this thread is, has anyone else been through a similar situation and if so, what was the outcome?
Really hoping to hear from someone
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Stepson causing problems with relationship
Dolly3092 · 24/04/2022 20:37
candlesandpitchforks · 25/04/2022 07:33
When SP come on here with these types of behaviours it's usually a child that's about 8.
Even on parenting board 8 seems to be the challenging age.
What does dad say when he says you have hurt him. Might be worth getting dad and you (with dad talking) saying that telling these types of tales is bad and he will be punished accordingly. Unfortunately these lies can cause massive issues if heard at school...
Careful op and I'm sorry this is happening xxxx
BuanoKubiamVej · 25/04/2022 08:38
He is a child. He isn't causing the problems. The adults around him have the responsibility here. He needs firm, consistent parenting, unconditional love, and appropriate boundaries and understanding of unacceptable behaviour standards. If his needs aren't being fulfilled then yes things will go wrong. If your partner is a good dad he will put the needs of his children above his own relationship status so if he can't fulfill his DC's needs whilst also maintaining his relationship with you then you should split so that he can focus on them. Given that this has been going on for longer than you have been pregnant it seems more likely that he's not mature enough to be a good dad in that way which does make me wonder why you are bringing a new child onto the scene too.
SoggyPaper · 25/04/2022 10:34
I’m not sure how it’s been turned into a subtle version of ‘bad SM; of course your husband should disregard you and his youngest child because the SC is the only thing that really matters’ with an added twist of ‘he’s shit; why are you breeding more children with him?’
It’s never helpful.
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Dolly3092 · 24/04/2022 20:37
Hello Mums
So I find myself coming to this platform to share a problem that I have been experiencing for quite some time now in the hope that someone has dealt with a similar issue and can help or give advice or something, I don't really know what I'm after tbh I just needed to rant!
So I live with my partner, I have a daughter from a previous relationship, my partner has 2 children from a previous relationship and I am currently pregnant with our first child together, myself and my partner get on so so well, however, for a while now, my partners sons behaviour and attitude towards me is just awful. He's honestly so horrible towards me, and my partner does see it and tells him off but also let's him get away with things because it's upsetting for my partner to see the way he is with me as he didn't bring him up to be like that. It's now got to the point where I am constantly upset and questioning how on earth this relationship is going to work when we are constantly arguing over my stepson.
I guess what I'm hoping for from this thread is, has anyone else been through a similar situation and if so, what was the outcome?
Really hoping to hear from someone
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