Off the back of another thread I've just read, I am posting this one I've been meaning to do for a while.
I am wondering how those with children here told their SCs they were pregnant? And how it went? I am looking for any tips you can give.
I have 2 SCs - 12 and 8 - and we have a really good relationship. I've been in their lives for 5.5 years so quite a while now, but I'm worried it might go badly as I think it might be quite a surprise for them and they likely haven't considered this might happen. Should he start planting the seed now in the run-up to telling them or might that make it worse?
Did you talk them together or did their parent do it alone? I am tempted to ask DP to do it alone so SCs feel more free to react honestly, but don't know if it's better to do it together?
Personally I'd like to leave it as long as possible to tell them to save them stressing for months before the baby arrives, but we have a holiday with DP's family in April and I don't think we'd be able to get through that without MIL, SIL etc noticing. There will also be a few things I won't be able to join in with.
DP will tell his ex before SCs go back to her, and luckily she will likely be supportive and happy to help the kids adjust, so no issues anticipated there (unless she unexpectedly freaks out, but think this is unlikely).
Thank you in advance for any advice you can give me!