2 kids, 1 with mum, 1 with dad

[AmyU1]

Hi all.

My SS recently moved in. Up until recently he lived with his mum and sister and we saw them every 2wks.

OH and ex have private maintenance arrangement.

My question is, where does maintenance lie now the children have been split between the families?

Do we half our maintenance, or do we half it and ask her to pay for the SS at ours, or do we call it quits?

I’m keen to make sure all kids are safe and stable but I’m unsure financially how this affects the current agreement my partner has with their mum.

Thank you! X

@Chewbecca

Yeah, re-budgeting would likely have meant selling the family home so other child lost their home too, DSS would likely not have had a room in the new home, closing the door on returning and rebuilding relationship with his mum.

There is so much more to think about IMO than the ££, it’s the consequences for the DC.

I understand what you're saying and it is very noble, but it's also essentially the same as any RP being expected to pay for the NRP to have a suitable house for the child to visit, which would never happen.

Dsd1 lives with her mum and dsd2 lives with her dad and I and has done since she was 9. We're on a higher income so dh pays half the maintenance. If it's even then I would call it quits. He has dsd's every other weekend and the alternate they're at their mums.

If done through CMS, each parent would be assessed separately.

We paid the same for the 3 that stayed with Mum and we were supposed to receive a sum for dsd who lived with us (Mum never paid it though🙄 )