How do we do holidays?

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Dp & i have a child each, his boy is 13 my girl is 8, how would we handle rooms etc on holiday? A 3 bed apartment? As they cant share due to age.

Any ideas?

Yes a 3 bed place, or 2 bed and each parent goes in with their child. Not ideal if you want to share a room. Also not ideal if you want to do… other stuff! But for a short holiday could be a way around it.

Honestly?
You holiday with your dd. He holidays separately with his ds. And then you both take a holiday/weekends away together alone, ie without any kids.
The pressure of having separate dc of different ages & sexes does not a happy holiday make (in my experience).

@Magda72

Honestly? You holiday with your dd. He holidays separately with his ds. And then you both take a holiday/weekends away together alone, ie without any kids. The pressure of having separate dc of different ages & sexes does not a happy holiday make (in my experience).

Oh no that would feel too much like we are separate entities and not a family.

We will all go away i was just thinking logistically speaking whats best. Also considering the cost as i am sure a 3 bed is much more.

You can do a 2 bed and either each share with your own child or you give the kids the rooms and you and DP share the sitting room/living area

Aparthotels. Two beds plus a sitting area with a sofa bed. It's a pain, but it's the best solution tbh. I have 2 DDs (both of ours) and a 14yo DSS, and this is how we split it.

I like caravan holidays for this scenario

2 beds and kids spilt the holiday half and half with bedroom and sofa bed / living area.

2 bed and you shared with your own kids

2 beds if you don't mind sharing with your kids. 3 beds if you can afford it and want partner time.

Have your kids known each other long and do they get along? I qould say adults in one room kids in the other. Id find it a bit strange if i was with my ds and my partner with his dd. You want to be a family and for the kids to be lile brother and sister (as long as they get along). Two single beds would be ideal in their room. I wouldnt see an issue with this.

2 single beds in interconnecting rooms. Keep the door open between rooms most of the time

In the past I have put one child to bed in my bed, and they carried/moved said child onto sofa when I go to sleep. This works well when staying with friends or weekends but sleeping all week on the sofa may not be great for any DC.

Three bedrooms. Air b&b type?

@covidtrap, no way should an 8 year girl have to share with an unrelated teen boy. I was aware of a step family who considered this but it was highlighted by social services to be a very bad idea.

Have you and your partner been together long? Have the kids grown up together? If they have grown up as brother and sister I would see no issue in them sharing a bedroom with 2 single beds for a few days on holiday.

Our children are both girls but we either have a 3 bed or we share with our own child.

I've not been in this position but have a few friends with similar age children/step children

I'm pretty sure on most holidays they shared a room with their own child - I'm not sure if that was due to being unable to afford an extra room? I know they did consider holidaying separately, but they were keen to go together

@TracyMosby

Three bedrooms. Air b&b type?

The only time I tried a holiday with my DC and SC, this is what we did. The SC were in a room with a bunk bed. My DS got a room with a double bed. And we had a double bed.

My (idiot) husband tried to say all 3 kids should share a hotel room (linked to us). But I refused. His are a girl and a boy (3 years age difference) and my so is 4.5 years older than his daughter. There’s no way I’m making him share with a little girl. Or a much younger boy. The SC share a room at their mothers anyway.

The air B&B also made us a bit easier food wise because we could give them breakfast before anyone was dressed. And we could avoid trying to find a restaurant where the fussy SC would actually eat for every meal. And it meant we could put them to bed (or DS could hang out in his room) and relax in the living room at night.

3 bedrooms or 2 and you both share with your own child

@Magda72

Honestly? You holiday with your dd. He holidays separately with his ds. And then you both take a holiday/weekends away together alone, ie without any kids. The pressure of having separate dc of different ages & sexes does not a happy holiday make (in my experience).

This is how we do most of our holidays. We have had some holidays together but with kids of different ages and an different interests, it's hard to please everyone.

@Covidtrap

Have your kids known each other long and do they get along? I qould say adults in one room kids in the other. Id find it a bit strange if i was with my ds and my partner with his dd. You want to be a family and for the kids to be lile brother and sister (as long as they get along). Two single beds would be ideal in their room. I wouldnt see an issue with this.

Not at that age and mixed sex. It's not acceptable.

3 bedrooms.

@Covidtrap

Have your kids known each other long and do they get along? I qould say adults in one room kids in the other. Id find it a bit strange if i was with my ds and my partner with his dd. You want to be a family and for the kids to be lile brother and sister (as long as they get along). Two single beds would be ideal in their room. I wouldnt see an issue with this.

I was thinking the same. The age difference wouldn’t bother me. At least for a weekend they could share.

Well I would imagine if op is posting for advice they have not gone on holidays together before now & if they had grown up together as 'siblings' then she wouldn't need to ask the questions she asked.
Adults wanting to feel like a family does not automatically reflect how the dc feel about things & there is no way I would expect two kids (one of whom is a teen) to share a room particularly when they are different sexes.
How mortifying for an potentially self conscious 8 year old girl having to bunk in alone with a potentially self conscious 13 year old boy & vice versa.

How mortifying for an potentially self conscious 8 year old girl having to bunk in alone with a potentially self conscious 13 year old boy & vice versa. I agree. Even if they were full siblings.