Covid and DSS

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DSS(6) has Covid, he tested positive a few days ago whilst at his mum's house, he will be allowed out of isolation just in time for Christmas.

DSS's mum is asking us to have him at our house Friday day, night and Saturday day as she has a Christmas party that she wants to attend.

I don't think this is the right thing to do and personally I'm really uncomfortable with the situation she is putting us in but I would be really interested to hear other people's opinions on this. Surely he should be isolating in one household, not going between the two and potentially spreading it further.

My husband replied and said no when she requested this and explained as above, but she is now insisting we have him at our house.

In case it's relevant, DSS's mum had Covid a few weeks ago & DSS is usually with us 50% of the time.

[quote candlelightsatdawn]@Cherrytart23 we are all (if head screwed on) disliking boris and what they did and stand for. I think he's a 🛎 end with a bad wig.

But if I got Covid I'm not isolating because I agree with him. I'm isolating because morally and socially I have a responsibility to others to stop the spread.

Yes being a single mum is hard, yes some dads are shitheads. But this isn't about anyone's personal situation, it's about having a social responsibility and unless the risk is 0% no one else's good time should be prioritised over someone's ability to stay safe from Covid. You can't say take the risk go between houses that's fine and then bash Boris. That would make the person saying that as much as knob as his party is. [/quote]
Yes but it's dad's weekend and if he can give mum a few hours break then why shouldn't he? In mums house she won't be there and Son will be in bed so the risk is very low. Dad won't have to isolate afterwards and God knows mum probably needs it physically and mentally given that she probably hasn't left the house since son tested.

Op question still stands if dss ended up falling sick in your house would you keep him there untill tested? And then for isolation Something tells me no you wouldn't.

@Cherrytart23 if DSS had tested positive at our house then he absolutely would be isolating here, no doubt about it. But he hasn't.

I'm sure it is hard for her but we are now being called selfish (along with other things) by his mums and asked to risk our whole Christmas, meaning we wouldn't see DSS at all, in order for her to go to a party.

But dad doesn't need to stay home or isolate if has contact so he could go and mind child in mums house for few hours so mum can have a few hours off. And If child is in bed then it's very unlikely dad will catch it. I like I s##t being a single mum. And as for guidelines boris doesn't even follow his own guidelines so what's good for the goose an all that.
@Cherrytart23 do you not understand how viruses work??? Just because a kid is in bed doesn't mean dad wouldn't catch it - it's in the air ffs!
Omicron is more virulent than previous strains which is precisely WHY all household members now have to isolate as opposed to just the person with covid. The minute the dad goes into that house he would technically then need to stay there. So you're basically saying that he should stay put at his ex's to give her a night off to party?!?
This has nothing to do with her being a single mum & everything to do with the fact that she is prepares to ignore 'rules' & expects another household to join her in that just because she can't wait a few weeks for a night out!

OP she is the selfish one.

While she doesn't have to isolate she could actually have the virus and going to the party means she could spread it.

Incidentally I know quite a few people at the moment who have or just have recovered from Covid. Luckily I've not been a direct contact.

Please be firm in your "No" it is your social responsibility.

Totally bemused by the idea of a mother leaving a sick 6yo child to go partying, quite apart from the Covid issues.

As it is, she shouldn’t be leaving the house and risking being a spreader in large groups of people, and little DS should stay put.

As for those claiming your DH is being unfair, would they view it the same way if the dad was one trying to move a child with covid between households so he could go out drinking?

@Cherrytart23

Basically mum has to miss out an stay home looking after sick son while dad does as he pleases. S##t being a single mum. If dss was at your house when he became ill would he off stayed their the full time? Just curious.

You are obviously a poor hard done by single mum by the sound of your opinion. Regardless of whether she wants to go partying or not, or whether you feel she deserves to go, she should be isolating at home with her child. The new variant states that all household members should isolate. Maybe her friends and the other people at the party wouldn't want her to go if they knew he had covid in her home. She is the selfish one willing to put everyone's Christmas plans in jeopardy.

So she wants to have her child give their dad and stepmum covid? What a cow. That poor child will have to live with it forever if either of you get hospitalised or die.

But dad doesn't need to stay home or isolate if has contact so he could go and mind child in mums house for few hours so mum can have a few hours off. And If child is in bed then it's very unlikely dad will catch it. I like I s##t being a single mum. And as for guidelines boris doesn't even follow his own guidelines so what's good for the goose an all that.

Bizarre attitude - we all know how COVID spreads, if the dad goes into the house then surely he may as well be bringing SS back with him?!

I completely appreciate that all this is so shit and hard for single parents, as isolation for your child essentially means isolation for you too since there is no other adult to leave them with even just to go for a walk or pop to the shop.

But it's really not responsible to try and hand over a COVID-positive child to another household for a non-essential reason. And especially right on top of Christmas when it would ruin everybody's - including SS's - plans for someone else to catch it from him at this point as the isolation period would cover Christmas Day.

If she was ill with covid herself then yes dad should step up but its ridiculous to risk infecting another household for the sake of a party.

I’m so glad DSS is now 27 and living independently because DH’s ex would have happily spread bubonic plague amongst households, just so long as the visiting schedule wasn’t disrupted. She viewed access as respite care and was hell bent on protecting every second of her child-free time.

Absolutely not. No way.

I cannot believe this woman would rather go out to a party than be with her sick child.

She also is basically giving you the finger on your Christmas too. It's likely one of you would get covid and your Christmas plans would be out the window. So she can go to a party...

I do think you should make up the extra days she's had SC though when it's your turn next seen as though it's 50 50

@coffeepot72 Ha! That's like my DHs ex.

About 6 weeks ago she sent SD to ours and then text DH after she had been with us 3 hours saying, "I had to take her for a PCR this morning. I'll let you know the results"