Christmas and getting through it

[DreadingChristmasAlready]

Anyone dreading the C word already? I try my best to stay out of my step childrens lives as much as possible but this season throws us all together for extended periods. All the fake joviality the festive period is supposed to bring. I'm dreading it and have little or no escape.

They are young adults (not young children).
Any ideas on how to cope?

@candlelightsatdawn

I’m guessing you didn’t read * We have a rubbish relationship all year round. They're rude, entitled and greedy and their father (my husband) facilitates it (that's another story). I normally don't see them at all which suits us all, but there seems no escape at Christmas. We're all effectively forced to be together to keep DH happy*

* Op hasn't said she wouldn't love Christmas with the SC and her DP it's just their mum won't allow it and DP is a wet lettuce*

Because I sure as heck don’t get the vibe that the OP is indicating she would love Christmas with her SC given how she describes them and her “rubbish” relationship with them!!

And where does it say the bio mum doesn’t allow it??

@Oftenithinkaboutit your quite right. Tbh I think I got this post confused with another

Retracting previous statement re op being happy to have SC over.

I wouldn't defo not use the word bio mum on here though. That never ends well.

@candlelightsatdawn :) I thought I’d responded to the wrong post when I had seen your response :) As I had read the other one too!

@Change123today my brain is fried today apologises !!

Have you thought about getting together for a late dinner and then a movie on Xmas night. My extended family ends the day with a movie. This provides proximity (and the younger kids all enjoy this as a tradition) but there is no need for ongoing conversation.

It says something about your husband that all of you people who would prefer to not be in each others' company are willing to do it out of love for him. It is probably an indicator that you all recognize the things that he has done out of love for each of you.

Fortunately for all of you , Xmas only comes once a Year.

@Tattler2

Have you thought about getting together for a late dinner and then a movie on Xmas night. My extended family ends the day with a movie. This provides proximity (and the younger kids all enjoy this as a tradition) but there is no need for ongoing conversation.

It says something about your husband that all of you people who would prefer to not be in each others' company are willing to do it out of love for him. It is probably an indicator that you all recognize the things that he has done out of love for each of you.

Fortunately for all of you , Xmas only comes once a Year.

That or more likely he showers them with gifts and that's the only thing that they turn up for. Used to be the way here in our home. SD even rocked up in a jumper one year that said "I'm only here for the presents"

I'm in the 'Let's not bother to keep a DH happy who doesn't seem to do the same for you' camp.

How about Christmas away? Friends? Family?

'Gives you more time to have some special time with your darling children, DH!'

'But I want you there'

'Ah well, looks like you'll have to learn a lesson I get shoved in my face everyday - you can't always have things the way you want them.'