To think that DAD shouldn’t just walk into the bathroom when someone is on the loo

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We don’t have a lock on our bathroom door because I sometimes have seizures.

I could hear DD (8) and DSD (11) coming up the stairs today whilst I was on the loo. I shouted and told them not to come in because I’m on the toilet. DSD took absolutely no notice, waltzed straight in and said she needed a drink?!

She had presumably walked through the kitchen from outside to get to the bathroom. She walked in on me in the shower the other day saying she needed the toilet (we have a downstairs loo) after id asked her not to. She will walk into mine and OH’s bedroom while we’re both getting dressed which really annoys me. I kind of expect it with little kids but not with a pre teen.

I snapped at her a little when she walked in and said she needed a drink but I’m so done with the lack of privacy in this house!

As above. Get a bathroom lock. They can easily be unlocked from the outside but not so easily that you can just walk straight in.

You don't need a lock.

You need your DH to parent his child. If he won't id have no hesitation in doing it myself. She's 11, not 4.

Sounds like a dominance behaviour. She's seeking to convey that she's more important than you, in your home.

This was my first thought, too.

Your DH needs to grip this. I agree with other PPs that actions need consequences.

I agree that your DH needs to enforce boundaries.

But I would also contact a local locksmith re finding a lock that can be opened from outside in an emergency and is suitable for your door.

For when you and your DH are both getting dressed at the same time, can you get a door wedge to put under the door so she can't come in?

Sometimes parents won't enforce boundaries for whatever reason so we have to take matters into our own hands.

Don't all bathroom locks open from outside? With a coin or screwdriver. Ours do, public toilets usually etc