Step parenting is hard huh?

[eggsfor1]

I recently did a post about how my relationship failed the key instigator being the step children.

I was a twenty something with no children, I met my ex at work. He had 2 young children and a 'crazy' ex (I now understand why). I never realised this was a cliche until I started reading posts on this website.

I've been feeling so guilty about how things turned out. I thought there was something wrong with me, no one in real life talks about how hard step parenting is! I know there will be the exceptions, but overall it is very hard to take on someone else's kids!

I don't really know why I started this post, maybe just to say if you are struggling - yes it is bloody hard! No one tells you this and you don't realise until you are in too deep. I wish I had done so many things differently.

Anyone else been here? I'm in the depths of heartbreak still tell me this was for the best?

@eggsfor1

Thanks all! I know I am a nice person, being a step parent really screwed with my MH

@eggsfor1 I remember your previous post too. Tbh it sounds like your ex was the problem and was looking to shift the blame for his poor relationship with his other kids on to you, rather than looking at his own actions

Hope you feel better soon

@Tamara125

Woah, I really needed to read this thread tonight. Thanks OP for posting.

I have just left my partner of 5yrs, 3 SC. Exhausting. The thought of not having the 'silent drama' of their Mum invisibly hanging over my life like a dull ache reminding me of her presence and authority over him is like a weight lifted. Their relationship was chaos from start to finish, and now I see why.

I've come to terms that my partners children are just like him, so they'll move on easy peasy - no doubt he'll go back to her or someone else with a domestic tool kit to offer and a nice warm home.

XXX

Glad I could help, this is exactly what my ex did. He is with another woman already and they post daily about their 'happy family' antics on fb.

He wanted a step in mother for his children and a place to live, looks like he got both.

It looks like the new woman's teenage son has been completely pushed aside though, poor guy.

It's just more children, more women. The trail of destruction continues.

I do feel some sense of relief, but I still miss him. Sorry you had such a tough time too poster!

Thank you @lucy5236 I will get there! Single mum life is just hard! But she is worth it! Xxx