Unappreciated step parent

[GiorgiaSoph]

Needing some advice.

I'm in my 20's and have been with my partner for nearly 10 years. He has a teenage daughter (14). I have gradually taken on most of the jobs around the house over the last 10 years, including cleaning before his daughter coming round, all the washing and cooking, shopping etc.
I don't think (apart from the odd dishwasher/living room tidy up), he's ever cleaned or tidied anything without being directly asked.
I work full time, as does he, and I help him with his business too. His job is extremely labour intensive though.
I feel totally unappreciated for all I do, especially when it comes to his child, when I have purposefully not had any children of my own when I wasn't ready for the responsibility.
Every time I say this to him he says I should have known what I was getting myself into when I met him and his daughter.
I think this is unfair but struggle to make him understand.

I can't not cook nice food and have a clean house (especially when his daughter is here), but struggle with the mental load of it when it's not appreciated.

Advice please??

I cant even believe you wasted that time in your life to write such an unhelpful, unnecessary and belittling response

I haven't wasted anywhere near as much time writing my opinion as you are doing by staying with him....and at least i still have my self respect no matter your opinion...........

@OmniversalSpecies2021

I'm not the OP hun 🙃

Please leave. It will only get worse with SC and your partner is clearly taking you for granted. Do find yourself an equal partner who will appreciate you

^I'm not the OP hun^

No........you're worse - you sound like one of the wannabe 'huns' from the rival site........

It's a bit of a MN cliche but I'll say it anyway, women are not support humans for useless men! It sounds like that's where you've found yourself OP and it's a hard role to shake off once it's been assigned to you but you basically have three choices, leave, stick up for yourself and start handing back the work he's offloaded onto you until things feel more balanced, or put up with it. I'd be pushing hard on option 2 and making it clear that option 1 will be the next step if he doesn't step up if I were you.

These threads are so depressing. Who the hell are these wankers who draw women in to do all their housework for them? They always make me think of @anyfucker's golden cock scenario. Not her golden cock, you understand!

Get a time consuming hobby OP and prioritise you’re career.

Of course have a chat about what needs to change.

@Zerempathy

Get a time consuming hobby OP and prioritise you’re career.

Of course have a chat about what needs to change.

Why would you advise this rather than advising her to leave? She shouldn't just stay with him and focus on hobbies and a career, she can easily walk away.

I'll try and give him a kick up the bum and see what happens

Umm. He knows what he is doing. He has known for 10 years. He is treating you like an unpaid servant. Do you think it's escaped his notice that you do all the shopping, cooking and cleaning? And you simply need to call attention to this oversight and problem solved?

Leave. This. Waste. Of. Space.

Your life would be easier and better the moment that you walk out the door.

@OmniversalSpecies2021

Lmao. I don't even know what the rival site is because I'm not that sad 🤣🤣

I sense you spend a lot of time on these type of sites so il leave you to it.

Hun

You re being exploited as free labour... Does he have a diamond studded knob or something? You should leave and find somone who truly appreciates you.

^Who the hell are these wankers who draw women in to do all their housework for them?^

Who are these women who are so desperate for a man that they choose to be his skivvy?!!

^I don't even know what the rival site is because I'm not that sad^
No....you're just sad enough to use 'hun' to try and belittle..........

It is time to get out of this, whether or not you 'knew what you were getting into'

@OmniversalSpecies2021 are you ok?

@Aquamarine1029

Run for your life and find a man without children. You're too young to waste your life on this.

This. You got together when you were young. This is ridiculous - get out and get yourself a life that you want.

Or stop doing it all and see what happens.