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Xxppxxx · 25/01/2021 12:43

So basically,
My partner has a LG who’s 7 we also now have a baby who’s 8 months and another on the way so I’m not holding back in thinking this has a lot to do with my story.
I met my partners little girl 6 months into our relationship, done everything properly made her feel as comfortable and happy as possible we had a lovely relationship. We had days out went shopping watched films baking bla bla bla. My LG came along and it took her a while to adjust, completely normal so it was just a work in progress but we got there. Anyway fast forward a few months and I’m at my wits end. I take my LG up to bed around 7 and normally stay with her when my partners LG is round because it’s noisy and she wakes a lot so it’s easier, being pregnant I get tired also so I normally fall asleep too. There’s been a number off occasions when my partners LG would come up and do everything in her power to wake up, whether that be pinching slapping shouting or jumping on me and my LG she will wake us up. I tell her but she basically laughs in my face. She’s rude, she tells me to move she literally takes food off my plate with her hands and eats it even when she has food infront of her she took melon off her sister and said “I’m having that now” I was tidying and she told me “go look after your daughter she’s your responsibility” baring in mind she was stood behind me. She needs constant attention, she is draining the life out of me. She’s picked her sister up by her arms a number of times when she’s been told not too countless amounts. She’s lied to my partner making out I say things I haven’t said because she finds it funny. This whole step parent thing is new to me and telling someone else’s child is what I struggle with because when her dad is there I feel he should take control. Don’t get me wrong I do tell her but it’s effectless and she never ever listens. This weekend wasn’t my partners weekend to have his LG but he offered to have her and it started off fine but then bits of what stated above happened and I just wanted to escape. I went to b&q and my partner rung and said he was going to keep his LG and I turned around and said (I have my own flat) I’ll go home tonight and it turned into a massive argument because he just cannot see where I’m coming from and feels because she is a child and I’m the adult that this is enough. I don’t want to spend the weekends we’re not meant to have her being spoken to like dirt or woken up by being jumped on when I’m 24 weeks pregnant nor do I want her behaviour rubbing off on my little girl. Please someone give their honest opinion am I being a bitch should I let it go or what should I do because my partners right, I don’t want to be there with her when she’s just making me stressed and being rude. Why would I?

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MeridianB · 25/01/2021 21:36

@sassbott

I’m horrified to read the behaviour of this 7 year old! I’m with the other posters here. Where is your partner when his daughter is acting this way?

Do not, under any circumstances sell your flat.
Bluntly, in your shoes, I would yell my partner that until such time that he could adequately discipline his child and ensure her behaviour was acceptable, I would be removing myself and my child/ children.

That’s it. No discussion. This won’t miraculously get better. Children don’t just ‘grow out’ of behaviour like this, it worsens.

This, with bells on. You and your children need and deserve to live without this stress. It sounds truly awful.
Onlinedilema · 25/01/2021 21:51

At 7 she is old enough to know better, her behaviour is unacceptable. Does your partner spend time with her alone, without you or the baby in the same house. He needs to do this. If I were you I would tell him, I'm staying at my flat on Saturday and leave him to be alone with his child. He absolutely needs to be parenting his child and speaking to her every time she hits you or takes things from the baby.
I have a real by he will sulk, let him.

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