Hi I hope you can give me some good advice , I’ve been with my partner for 2.5 years , last year we bought an old barn and have renovated it , throughout lock down I have lived here with him and my daughter has lived in my house with her boyfriend , she is 19 , my house is on the market and the chain has broken three times but hopefully we will complete in around 3 weeks. Financially it’s been hard and all the money is tidied up to pay off the loans for the barn , anyway my daughter and I packed all the things fromour house on Friday and she moved in , the relationship with my dd and partner has been fine, he has a ds from his long marriage of 35 years , his ds is 30 , so the way I patent my dd and the way he has parented in the past are different , the thing which has sent massive alarm bells is that he stayed out of the way most of Monday cutting the grass Ect and then when my ds and her boyfriend left the house he stopped the lad and very sternly said there are rules here, don’t ignore me , say hello and goodbye Ect, my daughter was mortified she had been polite , tidying up stuff herself the boyfriend who isn’t massively confident was talking to me , but my partner really got it wrong in my opinion , so after they had left I told him I was mortified by what he had said , that they wouldn’t feel welcome and she had really been struggling with the move, we are now 30 minutes from her friends , so last night I got them to talk of through , which I think made it worse she said she thought the way he behaved was rude , he said he thought the way she behaved was rude , she left the room and went to her bedroom in tears, he was also
Upset , but I am really upset I want us all to get along, I think there is some other stresses due to loss of work brought on with Covid that are making this situation into something which is so unexpected and out of character, but I saw a side of him I didn’t recognise or like, my concern is when my house completes at the end of the month do I put my money into the barn and hopefor the best or run ?