Does your DP like your kids?

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Having a rough time anyway at the moment with DP and me so I'm trying to work out if this issue is just an extension of our issues or a separate wider issue.
Sometimes I get the impression that DP doesn't actually like my kids. He can be an arse at times and isn't good at hiding emotions (unless it's happiness - seems to be hiding that one quite well at the moment ) We share a toddler DD as well as me having 3 kids, preteens to teens and he has a preteen who he sees EOW.
Tonight one of the preteens was doing something that does annoy me, he'll recreate noisy battle scenes with figures and I do tell him to keep it down a lot however this is how the conversation went tonight:
Child: pow pow psssh uuugh
Me: can you just tone it down a bit?
Child: but I'm playing!
Me: I get that but just be quiet....
DP: yeah just be quieter
Me: or you can play upstairs in your room and be as noisy as you want.
DP: yeah you can go upstairs.
Child: there's nowhere to play
Me: you can play on the Flo...
DP: you've got the carpet, play on that.
Me to DP: errr alright!

DP didn't say a word to him prior to this or after.
Took toddler for bath, hasn't said a word to teen who came down as we were going up.
DP shouts down to teen: just had to shut your door to stop toddler going in there!

Now won't see either of them until tomorrow evening as they're all upstairs reading and he's putting toddler to bed. I had to stop him reading to toddler as she was listening but not paying full attention so he started reading in the most bored voice as fast as he could.

He's getting crankier as he gets older (mid 40s) if you've read other stuff I've posted his dad is an absolute wanker and DP is still scared of him. And he's under a lot of pressure as it's only him working in his company at the moment so his day is packed then straight to me for toddler, gets home 10ish then has to shower and walk dog so I get he is tired.
We don't live together, been together 6 years. Both houses currently otm to buy together.

Is your DP ok with your kids 100% of the time? Or has lockdown thrown it all out the window too?

Yes @SandyY2K that's exactly it. I've already told him I don't need him to parent my kids - that have one in this house already.

Sometimes you get so busy with life and stress you don't really notice things until something really sticks out-unfortunately Covid 19 is like a magnifying lens on all our relationships. Good luck

Yeah he does, he makes an effort to spend time with him and do nice things with him. When he came over before lockdown he always made a point of playing with him for a good half an hour as soon as he arrived, rather than focus on me. Now hes back working (lost his job through covid) when he gets home he does the same and makes a point of giving at least half an hour of positive attention to my son. I don’t expect him to parent him now, but I would expect it further down the line especially as eventually we plan on adopting together.

Your first post sounds okayish, the rest sounds like a car crash. Any adult saying that to a ten year old is a horrible person.