I hate it when my step children stay

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Because all they do is play games 😞 I feel like half of my life is spent watching them play games on their Xbox in the living room.

We try and get out as much as we can for walks etc.. (prior to lockdown!) but all they do is moan that they want to go home.

Now we're stuck in the house, it's constant. We've tried to do a few crafty things but it lasts about two minutes.

I hate it, I honestly feel like I could scream if I have to watch another 5 minutes of Fortnite. My husband just likes 'being with' them so will just sit in the living room and watch. I'm expected to do the same, he will get moody if I say I'm going doing something else in the house, like watching TV upstairs, reading a book in our room. I should want to spend time with them, which I do, but not just sitting watching a game, they don't even care if we are there or not and I feel like if DH wants to let them do that all day then I'm going to take myself off and do something else although it does get annoying having to sit in your bedroom all day because they've taken over the whole of downstairs talking and shouting on their headsets.

Before lockdown I would go out and see family or something but obviously I can't do that now and I am just so fucking bored when they are here.

It's not about the kids personally, I do like them and care about them but I hate watching gaming all day it drives me mental, it's all they do here and at their mums.

Let him get in a mood , say you'll watch them play for a while, then you'll go upstairs to read or watch tv.
If he wants you to spend time with them say you will , if you can all go for a walk , play a game , watch a film. Otherwise no , how boring having to watch children play on line.

You've always had the "I'm going to do what I want" option. But you chose ( yes chose, you can choose to walk away) to be in.
This is NOT an easy road, it never was, way before CV we had choices but we chose the life we live. It is not what we want. Noone wants this!!! Everyone has it tough, we have to get through. I know it's shit, we just have to see it through.

I feel exactly the same way about my step kids atm and have a newborn baby. TV blaring in the background whilst they play on thier tablets and they refuse to play in thier bedroom which is the biggest room in the house. Don't know why we bother buying toys at Christmas as they don't play with them theyre obsessed with thier tablets. I'm half tempted to get a bag and tell them to start bagging up all the unopened toys so I can donate them to kids who will appreciate and play with them. My dp has no discipline and I have no say. I get through it with wine.

Are you really going to stay with this man, knowing that 50% of your life is going to be absolutely shit?

@Rcats1 Could have written that word for word.

My step kids aren't bad kids but I'm on edge the whole time they're here, it causes friction as I don't want to do everything with them and often sit in my bedroom alone as they take over. I feel like an outsider in my own home. I truly love my partner but I'm starting to get to the point where I think that living apart might be the way forward.

How are you doing OP?

I've just started a thread almost identical to this then saw yours. Hope you dont mind me resurrecting it?

The constant gaming is stressful. I've also tried and failed to encourage them to do other things, clay modelling, making pizzas, board games, watching movies etc.

They're not interested in anything else and if I manage to prise them away from the screens at all it only lasts a few minutes.

I understand your frustrations.

This is very annoying, sounds like!
My two step daughters like watching TV a lot, playing video games and stuff but I do have the authority in my house to watch my TV or do whatever I want in the living room.
This is something you have to talk to your husband about. Also, if he's expecting you to accept this, you should defo run away, girl!!!!!!

Put tv in their bedroom ,make them play games upstairs,put your foot down ,reclaim your lounge

Gosh I could have written this myself! I make myself busy as when SKs are over they literally play on their tablets from morning to night and I'm not exaggerating!!! I told DH that there's no way I'm sitting in the house all weekend watching YouTube after working all week as his children don't want to do anything. His bad parenting is making me distant from them and of course that's my fault!!!