Photos

[CbonusM02]

Hi all, bit of background - I am a step/bonus mum to 2 kids from my partners previous relationship, and we have 2 kids. Partner and I have been together for 5 years.

Im just interested to see everyone's opinions regarding photos being done.

Got 'family photos' coming up that I've organised, and I kindly invited the bonus kids mother along to it. I had planned for all of us to take a group photo for the kids - but now she has turned around and said she wants photos with my partner her and their children. They have never had a family photo before, so why would she start now? Is it bc he does have another family? We have an okay relationship.

I think it's a little bit weird as she says it's for her children bc it's their family - but in reality isn't it all of us together? They aren't a 'single' family anymore - they don't do any family things together, just drop off and pick ups. Obviously it is between them to sort it out as my partner is against it happening as he thinks it wouldn't be right as that's not their family anymore.

What are your thoughts?

Just use the tried and tested MN 101 response.

"Hi ExW, ur suggestion of u, DP and ur kids doesn't work me however if u want to organise ur own photo session I'm sure the studio will be happy to accommodate."

If she argues, just say there is limited time and ur prioritising "whole family" photos.

Slightly aggressive? Oh lord. I apologise if anything I said about entitlement from some ex wives throwing me felt aggressive. It’s simply a statement of fact. The exwife is not a martyr and simply could have declined the invite if she felt it inappropriate. The fact that she’s wanting a group photo with her children and ex husband paid for by the new wife? If that isn’t entitlement then what is? I mean I’m laughing out loud at some of the sentiments on this thread.

You can of course beg to differ and I will respect that. Without needing to call your post aggressive because I don’t like the content.

sassbott - celarly no respect for other peoples threads is obvious in oyur responses!
C'est la vie
Not all ex wives are entitled as you clearly stated in your first post and then revised in your latter!!
Who knows if the EX has offered to contribute or not.

Who knows if the EX has offered to contribute or not.

It’s not just about the money. It’s the making demands and trying to change things to suit her. It’s just typical entitled behaviour of a lot of ex wives. And it’s quite clearly a power trip. The money is just the icing on the cake if she’s expecting to get her own photo shoot with her ex and kids for free.

As per @NChangeForNoReason

If the ex-wife wanted certain things she needs to organise her own photoshot.

In future simply don't invite her to voluntary things.

Well, you have to assert yourself, since you're the ones paying, you're are the ones who decide.

In this case, I would only accept a picture with all the adults present (we did a picture like that for one of the birthdays, it wasn't a professional photoshoot though) or only her with her kids (but I don't see why you would pay for that).

Talking about exW's entitlement, in our case, the exW made a scandal to DP because he didn't take her son from previous relationship (who has a loving father) for our family photoshoop.