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Not Sure I can do this :(

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Vivian88 · 31/10/2019 22:50

I posted before about partners ex being in critical condition with brain injuries. She’s out of the coma but We’re pretty sure it’s going to be a long recovery. I’ve taken care of the kids for the last month but I’m started to get down.

This is the hardest situation Iv ever been in. My partner works shifts & is goin to be on permanent late shift for like 3 months meaning I will have to look after 2 stepkids and my own dd.

I work part time 3 full days 2 but work from home & Iv been able to move my lunch break to late on so can do school runs. I’m just really struggling with this daunting task. I feel like my whole world will now revolve around the kids. I feel selfish for even thinking like this when kids mum is so poorly. I can’t spend anywhere near as much time with my dd she’s only 4. This whole half term has been a disaster. My partner has been ill on the days he’s booked off and Iv had to look after them alone when the reason he booked the time off was to help. & he’s told me if I don’t do the school runs in the morning as well as get them after school and have them
all evening (he works 2-10pm with 1 hr commute either side) he’s goin to b to tired and get burnt out. & wknds he needs to rest.

It’s caused a row tonight as I’m so exhausted now I’m doubting whether I can do this. I wanna run away I’m so down / tired / exhausted & feel like the most selfish person on the planet & I’m letting everyone down. I don’t know if I can cope.

OP posts:
huuskymam · 03/11/2019 13:30

Hes being a lazy shit. My DH worked that shift for years, we always shared the mornings when I worked. He now works 10pm till 5am and stays up to do the school run. Goes to bed at 9am till about 2pm,then has a nap in the evenings just before work. Your dh needs to do his fair share for his kids.

Alittleunknown · 05/11/2019 05:34

Hes basically riding on the tails of his exs tragedy to make you feel guilty. You're not the problem here.

PrettyPurse · 09/11/2019 08:06

@Vivian88 how are things?

MeTheCoolOne · 09/11/2019 08:16

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monkeymonkey2010 · 13/11/2019 01:01

he will only do things when he wants to find the time to
Says it all......and you've chosen to tolerate this all this time just because you earn less?!

HE is responsible for HIS children and NEEDS to either change his shifts or job....you are not his unpaid childcare!
He's only leaving it all to you cos you allow it.

managedmis · 13/11/2019 01:26

These men!

You give them an inch, they take a mile

I'd go to your dad's and not return, op

PrettyPurse · 14/11/2019 07:37

Don't think @Vivian88 is returning. Hope she is ok

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