I hate my stepdaughter.

[Rhootintootinboo]

There. I said it. She has been living with us since her mum kicked her out at 14 so 3 years. We used to get on. I’ve done a lot for her in the past but about 12 months in she decided to turn the hatred she was directing at her mum towards me. She is spoilt, selfish and totally entitled. Her dad (my fiancé) spoils her and cannot see any wrong doing. This year alone he has spent Over £10k on holidays and gifts for her. In the meantime I can’t even make reasonable requests for considerate behaviour without receiving anger, vitriol and dirty looks. It is now at boiling point and tonight I ended up calling her a cunt and telling her that she is the problem and that she is reason her mum kicked her out. I know my language is unacceptable. I just don’t know a way out of this. I’m supposed to be getting married in six months and the reality is I just want to leave because of her. She is utterly unbearable and I cannot cope.

[HoppingPavlova]

I have never lived in a house anywhere where people don’t acknowledge each other as they’re coming and going. I feel sorry for those that do and have no wish for that in my own living environment.

Not sure you have much experience with teenagers/young adults as your expectations don’t seem to match reality and I think that is causing a lot of angst.

[Witchydearest]

Did you all miss the bit where OP said she wanted to leave and couldn’t cope. Sounds really sad doesn’t it 😞 anyone else actually reached out to a forum of complete strangers and admitted something like that. I remember a time I said words like that out loud. I think some posters have maybe focused on the wrong parts of the OP.

[Johntorrodeismydad]

I hear you OP. I hate mine too. I hate their father too and I'm saving to escape the hell. Biggest mistake I ever made was falling for a man with kids.

I hate the posters who say 'poor kid', no she's not, she sounds hideous. Just because they are step children doesn't make them saints who can do no wrong. Try living with someone else's kids. Never ever ever again.

[Witchydearest]

@johntorrode 😂

[HeckyPeck]

But I can't help thinking the majority of men I know would have mentioned it by now. I can't imagine them running it past an internet forum.

Agreed. And for OP - it’s ok to leave a relationship for any reason at any point. You don’t have to justify it to anyone. Life is too short.

[sassbott]

Oh lord.

Don’t get married is my only thought. Just don’t.
Life is far too short for this.

[pinksparkleunicorns]

To be fair, your DSD DOES sounds like a cunt.

Think I'd be out of there faster than you can say spoilt brat.

[Mintjulia]

Oh OP, I feel for you. I put up with my ex’s daughters for several years and life was utterly miserable. I became a receptacle for their hourly spite. In the end I left with our ds.

You have to make your own decision whether to stay or go, but I’d postpone the wedding.

You can’t even count on her moving out soon. Kids stay at home into their 30s. Can you cope with another 15 years?