If your SC have DC, what do those DC call you?

[NaToth]

Just that really. DH keeps telling me that when SD has children , I'll be GM Na Toth. I disagree.

Any thoughts?

All the kids in my family call my stepdad grandad. I think it depends on your relationship with the kids parent. If they see you as a parent, you'll be a grandparent. If they see you as Sandra, you'll be Sandra.

I am a stepchild with a child of my own (as is my partner), our daughter will use "grandparent" names for our step-parents, as do the mine and DP's nieces and nephews. All my DD's grandmothers have different names: Gran, Grannie, Nana and Grandma, while the grandfathers are all just Grandad.

I imagine you'd be called by your name. So Grandad and Na

What do you mean "you disagree"? I'm not sure it's your choice to make. What are your circumstances with your SD? How old is she (so how hypothetical is this situation) and what does she call you?

What do you want to be called? You may get asked. Your post made it seem like you're not comfortable with Grandma, and I totally get that

My children call their step-grandparents Grandma and Grandad, but they’ve been my partner’s step-parents since he was a child (7 or 8) so I’m not sure if that makes a difference.

My 9yo DS calls each of his step-grandparents nan and grandad. They've been in his life since he was born so as far as he's concerned, they're his grandparents (although obviously he knows who he is biologically related to).

My DC call my stepdad & stepmum grandad & gran but they've been around since the DC were born.

DS calls his stepmums parents John & Mary (not real names) he's only known them for 5 years.

It depends on the relationship. Dd was only about 7 when Dp moved in, and a decade later still calls him by his name, despite thinking of him as her dad, but has always called his parents Gm and Gd.

Dsd has lived with us for the last decade with little contact with her mother, calls me my name, but treats me like a parent and through actions clearly thinks of me like a mum. And I’d actually be hurt if her hypothetical children didn’t think of me as their grandparent.

I don’t think gps are like parents in that you can only have the two addressed by title.

My kids call the step grandparents by their first names as we do. They did not bring up h which might make a difference (a sore point is that I have known his mother longer than here husband!)

My dh is a stepson. DC call their step-grandma 'Nana' and their step-granddfather 'Grandpa'.

DC are adult now but when they were small they didn't know/understand about step versus biological grandparents. they just knew thwere were 6 older adults in their lives who cared about them.

My step dad is grandad to my dc, that was my decision and he was happy to be either grandad or his name. It will should be your step dc choice what their dc call you

My DD calls my step mum Granny. And my stepdad Grandpa. Massively confusing if they didn't, I think!

My DC don't call DHs SM a grandparent name.

DH refers to her as his dad's wife, so the kids don't see her as a GM. She married his dad after we got married and after our DC were born, so that makes a big difference I think.

DS calls my stepdad Grandpa.

DS calls his stepdads dad Grandad, but DH has effectively brought him up ( since he was a toddler)

I'd like to think that when DS has children he'll give DH a GP name, but I'll respect it if he doesn't. I'm not sure of DH's thoughts, whether he'd want to be grandad or something.

My DSC call my mum Granny Name and my SM Granny Name. My SM got a choice when we had DD, no MIL in the frame so was just her and DM picking female granny type titles. She’s gone for something completely ridiculous which no child could pronounce but it’s just the title, not including her name. I’ve always called her by her name and known her over 20 years but to my DD she’s just another grandparent.

They all call me Grandma or Grandma Trying. I have known and loved all of them since their births. I would be happy with any name they wanted to call me.

My DC call my Ddad's wife by her name. Her choice, as she "doesn't feel old enough to be granny" Fair enough. They call my mum's husband "granddad". Both my parents had remarried for a number of years before my DC were born.

I will be my name. Just like I am to my SS.

My DD calls my stepmum a nickname derivative of her full first name. Would have been ok with Nana too but weirdly I was a bit uncomfortable with Granny/Grandma, purely my own weirdness I think, have no actual problem with step-grandparents being known by traditional grandparent names - it was probably more to do with the fact that she’s quite young in comparison to my own grandparents!

I always called my mum's stepmother by her name, but she only married my grandad when I was 7 (and my mum in her 30s) and I think I felt it would have been wrong to call her granny as my granny had only died a couple of years earlier.

My own DSC I've known since they were young so I would hope that their children will call me granny. They'll know me from birth so why not? It might need to be Granny Firstname if they need to distinguish me from any other granny, because my DSC's mum still has the same surname as me and DH.

It's quite different from calling a stepparent mum or dad though, as grandparent names aren't unique - most people have two grannies, so why not three?

Well, I live abroad and 'grandpa' or any other English word won't be taken by their actual grandparents, so I guess that.

The Danish words for grandparents are actual person specific (mormor and farmor for mum's mum and dad's mum etc.) so it would be very cheeky to try and claim one - on a level with asking them to call me dad.

When the time comes I will let me SD and her DH decide what they would like their child to call me & go with that. I would ensure my DH keeps quite and let's them decide

I'm Granny to my SC children. The SC themselves call me by my first name but they asked me to choose the "grandparent" name I'd like.