Does anyone else have utter lies said about them?

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I just need to write this down, so it's out my head. DSS's mum was pissed at me today. So she lashed out and texted DH this utter lie ..... Apparently when DSS has hospitalised recently while he was in my care, it was for my benefit so I could 'play mum' she apparently had a quiet word with the nursing team who told her this and then she also called admissions who told her this. Apparently I looked sad and lost and needed help from the nursing staff not DSS.
This is 100% not true.
DSS's mother dumped a very poorly DSS on us at late notice. DH had to travel with work the next afternoon. I took 2 days off work to care for DSS. Took him to the GP, was worried about his breathing immediate referral to A&E. But apparently I did this for attention. Any advice on how to cope with this utter bile?

No advice just commiserations. I know exactly how you feel, my DSD mum like to tell everyone I’m some child abusing monsters whilst simultaneously texting me to look after her daughter 3/4 times a week, you know cause I’m soooo abusive 🙄

It’s exhausting, worrying and just so completely unjust. It really upsets me but then again I think that’s the reason why she does this.

Yes.

Many of us have been accused of saying and doing things we haven’t.

My feeling on your situation is that she did not like the fact that you took him for medical assessment. It is quite clear that you did the right thing otherwise he would not have been hospitalised. You made a choice based on what you thought was in the best interests of the child. It’s got nothing to do with anything or anyone else.

Rise above this nonsense from her. She is attempting to cause drama and to upset you... your choice in this is to buy into her BS or not to buy into her BS.

If I were you, I’d buy into the former and not the latter. Flick it and her off as if it was a fly buzzing around your face and enjoy this amazing weather we are having today!

The best antidote is fun and laughter

Absolutely under no circumstances have dss at your home without dh there to look after him.
Once the mad bint grasps the repercussions of this she can come crawling...
Do it op...

Let her know it's not acceptable to speak about you to anyone and to not assume the worst in someone who you placed your child with. If she believed you to be unfit to look after her child then let her know you will not be doing that any longer until she has apologised for talking absolute nonsense if you know you have done anything wrong and you did what was in a child's best interest then you did everything correct. Tell her this. If she is not happy then refuse to help her in future. She will be quick to apologise when she's called to work again without notice and needs a helping hand.

Do not ever let people take advantage of your kindness it is a gift and only give it to people who are deserving of it.

Good luck,
Abigail

What windyday said

Yep I get it all the time from DsD BM to the point I will no longer look after her or have her in the house when DH isn’t there as it is awful situation to be in.

Apologies, I made a typo...

I meant do not buy into her BS!

Bint? Nothing like lowering yourself to someone else’s level.

Ignore, OP. It is meant to stress you out. If you try to tackle it, she knows it got you. Some good suggestions about not looking after your step children and making it clear why. That should force a rethink.

I’ve never experienced lieing from my SDs BM, I have however had it from my SD. Having said that i suspect she’s lied to her family and friends about us and definiately to her new husband - as he can’t even acknowledge us- the way I handle it is by talking to good friends who can validate u and let u know your not going crazy. She feels guilty and in some weird BM way - that you’ll never understand- this makes her feel better.

Twentyeight12 - the weather is awful 🥵

Sorry I'm in OZ - 27, sunny and it's winter

@WitchyMcpooface

I would’ve advise a good dose of Step Mothers ruin in a long tall glass filled to the top with ice

is it too early!

No, it’s Bank Holiday Monday tomorrow - you are saved

I'm afraid I told my told my step children if their mum ever libels me again I will take her to court and I will win.

Yes because admission would clearly know this (not). It just represents her own anxiety that you took the step that she hasn't to get him the medical assistance he needed. I hope DH has raised this with her and asked why the hell she would drop him off to you in that condition

It has helped.

Have her lies put your job at risk, Wally?

DSS's mother dumped a very poorly DSS on us at late notice. DH had to travel with work the next afternoon. I took 2 days off work to care for DSS

You've 'shown her up' for the poor parenting she displayed when her child was sick and now she's angry that she looks bad. If I were you, I wouldn't have the DC on your own from now on. Protect yourself. She'll be fuming but so what!

Obviously a lot of nonsense but didn't you contact her (or you oh) when he was admitted to hospital? Surely she was there too?

What was DH's response?

Bint- actually it means girl /woman.
I am a woman so not offended.
*To the rude poster...

I assume your DH believed you and made that very clear in his response? If so, she’s the one who has ended up looking foolish, not you.

Sounds like a case of your dh’s Ex feeling insecure herself as a parent. I agree with the poster who said the best antidote is fun and laughter. My dsd used to believe she had a weight problem. She asked me what I thought and I told her she had nothing of the kind, and was beyond beautiful. Dh got an angry call from his ex that night saying I had called dsd fat.

I have never really bothered with her since, just smile politely.

@Sotiredofthislife i don't think so. But she has accused another family member of taking bribes - he is the mayor - not true and incredibly stupid of her.