Ex husband's gf made my daughter cry on her birthday

[Bembridge124]

My first post on Mumsnet. But feel so upset and would welcome your thoughts. Divorced mum of three - husband had an affair. He is still with the same woman now. My kids see their dad regularly and stay with him and the gf and her child. She has been challenging - needy and jealous of me. She seems to be resentful of the money my ex pays for his three kids. Even though both her and the ex husband earn their own money. It was my daughter's 17th birthday and she had dinner with her father and his gf. Gf started haranguing her about the fact that she will be 18 next year and then she will be on her own financially and so she needed to think about getting a job! Ex husband tried to intervene and point out that this issue hadn't been discussed yet and also that she needed to tone it down a bit. My daughter started crying - at her own birthday dinner 😥😥😥
It seems my ex spoke to his gf later and she called up to apologise. This isn't the first incident - she had made my kids cry before. Shouting at them and telling them off for stuff that isn't their fault. But to make my daughter cry on her birthday just has totally tipped me over the edge 😥😥

It is absolutely none of the gf business , she has no legal relationship with either your dd or for that matter your ex dh .

She sounds like a cow. Yep of course she should get a job but why bring it up on her birthday

Some people take being a step parent very lightly. It’s me, me. me and no care for the child at all. My charming fil has Told my DH that he’s put in his will no money to adopted kids. At a family funeral my DH wad told it was his fault he was put into care. Yep at 1 day old.

She sounds nasty 😾

Well your exH certainly didn't trade up OP! What a horrible woman.

I think I'd be wanting to have the discussion over continued support with the ex now. He said "it hasn't been discussed yet" rather than "don't worry, I will continue to support you". Something tells me the gf didn't make that up out of nowhere.

In my opinion this is nothing to do with the girlfriend
Discussion between Mum Dad and child
Obviously child might be able to work if at Uni but depends on course etc
All up for discussion

LOL she needs to grow up at 17 and crying over nothing will not make for a strong human being in adult life which is essential.

At 17 a near adult minus 1 year should be able to grasp that she has to work when a adult without a melt down. The girl sounds entitled I think you are being unreasonable and you sound jealous of being replaced and not the other way round lol.