DP and I have 4 kids between us (2 his, 2 mine). This weekend we have all the children.
DP has agreed with work to do nights for a bit - I’m not happy about this anyway as I wasn’t consulted and initially it was told it was for 2 weeks max however we’re now into week 5.
He has his DCs Fri after school - Sun evening EOW (although we generally end up having them most weekends, even if it’s just for one night).
I said to DP that for the period he’s doing nights (as it’s supposed to be very short term) to not mess his ex about for the sake of the Fridays he’s working because she’ll have plans etc so I’ll look after them this Friday whilst he’s at work.
However, he’s now told me he’s been told by his boss he has to come in Saturday night too.
I’m feeling very poorly at the moment, I’ve got an awful head cold and sinusitis. I’ve been off work since Weds.
Looking after my own children has been a struggle the last couple of days and the thought of looking after DPs kids all weekend on my own makes me want to cry.
Having all 4 of them (age range 4-14) is lovely but extremely full on and I’m exhausted.
He’ll leave for work around 5pm, get home about 6am and then sleep until around 1-2pm. To put it into context I’ve been sleeping very badly and I have a temp of 38.5 which is making me dreadful and weak.
Would I be unreasonable to say I’ll still have his DCs tonight but if he decides to work tomorrow evening he’ll have to find alternative childcare for his DCs?
I’m really pissed off he’s even considering working all weekend because he knows how ill I’ve been.