Always been a handful but lovely. Especially with me.
EXW moved partner in after four months, after a year and a half of encouraging them to call him dad the relationship has ended.
Youngest has always been a handful but never anything beyond expected of his age.
Understandably he ks taking this hard. He was so young when my fiancee and his mum split so this is his first real "father figure" leavinf the home.
His mum has admitted he js just as bad at home.
I am happy to support and back up. But i am tired. So tired. We have a tenth month old that seems to feed off the tension. I end up having to baby the pair of them. Partner is brilliant but due tk an extension being built mainly by him i am left to deal with the kids. Usually isn't an issue, infacr usually i enjoy it. But due to life events listed youngest Ss has been quite awful.
To the point it has resulted in us habing tl be seperated for fathers day (i appreciate more for my sake than my daughters but i wanted a 'first' together, preferably with all three children regardless on the youngest issues) . But it is a christenint and the youngest SS behaviour is so bad we can't risk it.
We have also had to separate my daughters 1st birthday so both siblings and my DD can be together while still having my famkly time, as situations are so tense we want to avoid any atmosphere.
I love my SS. I do. But i resent the fact that his mum rushing things and pushimg something so quickly has resulted in us having to try and find ways around everything, and the end result is me being alone witj our little one.
For the record - step children have always taken prime attention when here. Even with myself. We appreciate how hard everhtjing must be and do what we can to ease it.
It isn't resentment towards the children k have an issue with. I feel for them. So much. I resent the fact their mothers actions out of impulse result in a shit storm for us.
Yet whenever she has even thought there were issues here she went mental. Yet we only found out about this through a general discussion with the kids.
This isn't what i thought i was signing up for. I just wish communication was free in regards to anything with the kids. At least bewteen the two parents. Yet it only ever seeme to be one way.
And for now my little one has no idea. Eventuallt she will though.
And if she is happy ro introduce people so quickly and demand the dad title, how many dramas are we all going to go through as a family?
Maybe i sound mean. Maybe this is the wrong platform. I will stress i lovs my step kids. I do. But i hate the whole drama being brought into our lives flr no reason.
For comparison my partner and i agreed flr me not to meet his ldis for at least nine months then say i was just a friend
At a minimum. But the moment his ex heard we were together she went and told the kids we were dating. This was three years after them separating.