This is a new one on me
18 year old step daughter has a generous allowance from us (£65) a month and has 2 part time jobs that pay rather well.
At weekends she's out clubbing, spends a lot of money on her appearance (spray tans, lashes, nails etc) and we bought her car for her so no debt for her to pay there.
It's my hen weekend in a couple of weeks and my OH has paid for her to go (flight and accommodation paid for). At the weekend we were out at an all day event where rounds of drinks are very expensive and she came along with a tenner but refused to spend it or contribute to any food or drink, that miffed me a little bit as now she's 18 she's drinking alcohol on every round but never contributing.
At my hen do I will be with a group of ladies who normally put £100 into a whip on the first day and we see where it gets us. When it needs topping up we top it up.
I asked DSD at the weekend how much she's saved for spending money for the hen and she said none "because I don't have any money".
AIBU to politely ask her to refrain from taking drinks from everyone if she can't chip in? I would feel like a bit of a cow asking this but she's not hard up and I'm reluctant to ask my friends to subsidise a freeloading 18 year old who we've been telling for months to start saving when my OH paid for her to go (that was the original deal)