We have my partners son every weekend, from Friday afternoon until late Sunday evening. My partner works away during the week and I also work full time in the week.
I'm writing this as I feel it's not only unfair on us but unfair on my step son. We never get to spend any time on our own and my step son pines for his mother all weekend as he doesn't really get to see her in the week either due to her workload. Whilst I do love having him around, I'm also starting to resent his mother for not spending quality time with him. She also has a elder daughter from a previous relationship before she met my partner and she is now asking if we will also have this child at the weekend. At first I didn't mind as my partner did bring her daughter up for a little while but now I feel she is taking the Mickey! I am writing this as for the first time on months me and my partner arranged to have a weekend together with no children and we gave her plenty of notice, she now has guilt tripped my partner into having the children by saying she now has to work, so the plans we had are now cancelled. I feel so sorry for my step son as when he is at my house he is constantly asking for his mother. My partner is also very soft with him and allows him to jump on the furniture, have a late bedtime and doesn't really discipline him. He is 6 and a half and cant use a knife and fork. I have spent lots of time trying and it's so frustrating as I think I'm not his parent but I'm the only one that notices this! I have mentioned this to my partner but he is so laid back about this. Sorry to go on but I needed to vent! All I would like is the odd night with my partner as he works away and for my stepson to have quality time with his own mother and also for my stepson to have some boundaries in my house. I feel I'm fighting a losing battle!