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Would it be weird

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nrpmum · 23/03/2019 20:10

Or construed as such to write a mother's Day card to my daughter's live in step mum (daughter lives with Dad) to thank her for all that she does for DD. From what DD says the SM does a fantastic job, and is lovely to her and that is all I could wish from a SM to my daughter.

For reference I do not have a good relationship with dd's Dad, but I do recognise he has our daughters best interests at heart.

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fattylawmaker · 23/03/2019 20:12

Won’t your DD’s dad be organising a card for SM from your daughter? I would have thought he would (should!) be doing if SM does a lot for DD?

fattylawmaker · 23/03/2019 20:15

If you ask DD and she says her Dad isn’t doing anything then I don’t think it would be weird for you to organise a card for DD to give to Step mum though Smile

littletreasure2017 · 23/03/2019 20:19

I think that's a very kind idea!! Xxx

Shouldbedoing · 23/03/2019 20:19

I always send my stepmother a Happy Mother's Day card. Obviously not a To Mum one, that's for my actual Mum.

bobstersmum · 23/03/2019 20:20

That would be lovely and very much appreciated I bet.

AuntMarch · 23/03/2019 20:27

I think it's a lovely idea, because it would let SM know that you appreciate her. And that isn't something step parents seem to get very often.

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nrpmum · 23/03/2019 20:31

That's what I was thinking AuntMarch. SM has been part of DDs life for at least 2.5 years and not long moved in with DD and ex. I know how hard it can be being a SM, so really just wanted to send a note of my appreciation.

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NuffSaidSam · 23/03/2019 20:32

A card might be a bit weird, but a letter would be lovely. I think it's a really nice idea!

Twickerhun · 23/03/2019 20:32

That sounds lovely. My dsd’s mother has sent me presents for mother’s day before.

PinkCrayon · 23/03/2019 20:33

"I think it's a lovely idea, because it would let SM know that you appreciate her. And that isn't something step parents seem to get very often."

This^^
Lovely idea Op.

itsbritneybiatches · 23/03/2019 20:37

I think that's lovely op.

As a
Step mum is never expect anything but that is sooooo lovely. And kind.

I'd be emotional after getting a card like that

ExtraPineappleExtraHam · 23/03/2019 20:39

You are a lovely human being. Please do it Thanks

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nrpmum · 23/03/2019 20:42

Ok, you've made me feel confident that I'm not a loon 😂 I'll pop a letter or thank you card next week.

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fattylawmaker · 23/03/2019 20:51

Oh I think I mistook you... you mean a card from you saying you appreciate SM rather than a card from DD?

Lovely idea, not loony at all Grin

porridgeface · 23/03/2019 21:08

What a lovely thing to do x

NorthernSpirit · 24/03/2019 00:27

I’m a DSM and think this is a lovely idea and such a nice thing for you to do.

Toomuchbabytv · 24/03/2019 06:53

How thoughtful, I am a stepmum and would really appreciate this. Really lovely thought Xxx

SandyY2K · 24/03/2019 13:24

There are cards for stepmum/stepmother. Get one of those for your DD to give her.

My niece and nephews do that for my SIL. They're old enough to buy it themselves.

They wouldn't get one that says mum though. They're mum is very much in their lives.

Butterflyone1 · 25/03/2019 13:31

I think it's a lovely idea. Yes Dad should be sorting something out but it would mean a lot coming from you too.

cookingonwine · 25/03/2019 13:40

Beautiful idea.

Lemons1 · 26/03/2019 14:48

Not weird at all!! It's a lovely and thoughtful gesture Flowers

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nrpmum · 26/03/2019 14:49

Sorry, for those who say Dad should be sorting it. I am writing to thank her myself for looking after my DD so well, and treating DD so kindly. I am not writing a mother's Day card from DD

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LailaByron · 26/03/2019 14:54

Lovely idea and very thoughtful. I’m sure it will be appreciated and not seen as weird at all xx

ijustdontunderstandher · 26/03/2019 14:57

That’s a lovely idea OP, you’re daughters very lucky to have two great women in her life

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nrpmum · 26/03/2019 15:13

Thank you, have sent a letter thanking her today.

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