I don't like my stepdaughter

[Paddy12]

I don't know what to do. I have 5 grown up children and 4 grandchildren and have always loved kids. 3 years ago my now husband and I moved in together with his 3 children now aged 8,12 and 15. There mother has had no contact since before we all moved in together so we are together all the time. I really thought we would be happy but in reality it's all gone wrong.I deeply care for the younger 2 but don't feel anything at all for the elder girl. It's getting worse to the point I don't want to be around her. I've never felt this way about a child before and I don't know where to turn for help. Has anyone else experienced this or am I really the wicked stepmother that I feel.

Please leave Op :( You sound so exhausted and done.

Your far from a horrible person. This situation would affect anyone.

I knew it would have to have an effect on your mental health. It's great your dear mother noticed what was happening and took you away.

Perhaps if she lives nearby, you could go and spend some time with her and tell your H she needs you there.

At some point you need to talk to him and explain how the situation is affecting you. Most especially because it's all being left to you. He needs to step up and get more involved in dealing with his DDs issues.

If you aren't able to do this, your options are to say nothing and continue to suffer, meaning your mental health will most likely deteriorate.

Or the other option if you don't think talking to him will lead to an improvement, is to call time on the marriage...