Child Maintenance?

[MumApr18]

My partner pays maintenance for 2 kids - one is now over the age of 16 and has a full time job (i.e not eligible for maintenance payments anymore). He phoned the CMS 4 weeks ago to advise them of this and obviously they need to go and check with the ex - they aren't on speaking terms. He says his payments will change automatically and he will be advised via letter once she stops claiming child benefit. I don't think she will do this off her own back though!
Should we be phoning to check on progress of this? Will any change in payments be backdated?
Thanks!

@Powerless- mums of children who pay rent are not entitled to be reimbursed for provding.

What on earth is she providing? She stays at her boyfriends most of the week, son contributes AND he has lived with dad untill 6 months ago..its a " dad has to pay for you whereas i dont Situation then?

@Powerless What’s with the “sweetheart”?!

Hey OP- ignore some of the posters seriously why they bother I don’t know.

You could be pooling money for all they know and could have a valid reason to ask.

Jesus. And you shouldn’t have to explain. I feel for you- you have your own kids to manage too. Cracks me up all this maintenance stuff. Father’s should pay their way absolutely - just not be taken the piss out of. I mean the other parents have to live too- and I don’t mean survive.

I know so many parents who’s dad stump up so much maintenance the mums seems to be the one benefiting more than the kids.
Give them a call—- chase this shit up.

I agree with @justcallmestep

Justcallme - over 50% of fathers do not pay maintenance - those are consistent figures from various sources - so all those parents you know must be doing well.

I get £400pcm for 2 kids - so with my matched contributions in a perfect world £400 pcm per child.

Sounds like a lot until you factor in :
£4800 per annum per child
1400 on holiday camps - so I can work
£3000 per annum on child care per child

Oh shit - £400 left to clother, feed, entertain etc my DCs!!!!
I am of course rolling in it, living the life of fecking reilly off my EX and he is hard done by!

Please point me in these lucky mothers direction - because I do not know one single Mum who is "rolling" in it.

Hi stuffed - my partner pays £350 per month to his ex. We have dss 2-3 times a week. Activities we cover when he is in our care (football bouncing etc) we take him on holiday, weekend breaks - get clothes if needed.

Father’s should absolutely pay especially if time is not dedicated and they’ve little involvement. That’s a piss take.

But there are a number of fathers (like my partner) who is hands on and for the amount of time and involvement on this side I think the payment can seem excessive.

You’d hope we’d all have a roof over our head if we didn’t have a partner - some dads wind up existing struggling.

My dss went on a cruise, Disney land and is often doing things and this is on the other side (his mums) he’s very fortunate.

It’s not about them rolling in it. It’s about being fair based on what each has. £800 between two kids (in your perfect situation sounds really high) but maybe he’s not around so much?

If parenting is 50/50 I don’t think payments should be made.

It’s sad to know so many dads don’t pull their weight though.

If parenting is 50/50 payments are not made. Jusy like all step parents are not wicked step parents the majority of RP parents are not dripping in jewels and cruising around the med on the maintenance payments.

I get less than £400 a month for two children who spend four nights a month with their DD. Ive fought tooth and nail for him to feed and clothe them when they are with him.

He pays nothing above what he is ordered to pay. The money he provides for them goes on them and I make the short fall.

He could see them more but chose to move too far away.

I have a feeling the stats back up more NRP not adequately supporting their childfen than there are RP living the high life on maintenance. But hey let's focus on them

Why are people not understanding what OP is saying here? 🤷🏻‍♀️
There is no mortgage to pay on the family home, broadband, gas/electric is topped up by OP and her husband and weekly groceries are even bought by them for DS... so what will his mum be paying; council tax, water and home insurance? Well surely the keep she is charging DS is contributing enough to those bills and I'm presuming any other miscellaneous costs he has he is able to pay for himself out of his wages, so why should OP's husband still be paying maintenance to the ex when she isn't financially supporting the child herself anyway, she shouldn't be claiming Child Benefit either if he's not in any education.
She doesn't even provide any care for him as she's practically living full time with her new partner, which I suppose is her prerogative but she shouldn't be getting money from benefits and maintenance when she's not contributing any of it to her DS

My point is that not all RP are like what you have just listed. Comment on the OPs sitiation but can we stop taring everyone with the same brush.