Hi all,
I am mum and step mum to six children. My eldest step son(16) recently attacked (punched strangled) my partner the first since July 2017. They used to be more common prior to this. However, since I said he will have to go if it continues this has kept a lid on it. He has been to counselling, however as the counsellor recommended not seeing his mum he quit this is based entirely on the info shared by him. He then tried other things but quit those too.
The recent incident I wasn’t home and got a call from my daughter saying my partner and SS were fighting and my youngest two Step children were present and crying.
Step son has a real attitude problem and thought he would go live with his mum after this recent incident but she couldn’t accommodate him due to the size of her flat so he has gone to live with his dads mum. Ss mum called the police on my partner about him not bringing clothes to her flat when she stated. Now the police are looking at my partner being a victim of an assault. Which of course my partner doesn’t want to proceed with.
My partner feels I am being unfair by saying we can’t really have him back. Of course SS has promised to do counselling again but he has attempted this 3 other times and quit early on.
I also take issue whilst SS can run off to him mums or nans we will never get him to behave. Whilst he stays with nan he is treated like a prince. Whereas mum is not very well off and this would of been a real challenge for him. I told my partner his mum should of said no as he would of had to return to us or force his mum to keep him. So then he would then have to comply with our rules.
However, my partner and I are not getting on because he feels I am being unfair. I am currently feeling like calling it a day. I am so over it. I don’t think any of our children should have to witness violence or walk on egg shells but this is how we will feel. I also, have my own angry child who is 11 now to the same extent yet and I always consequent his behaviour and even follow my partners consequences for him. However, with eldest SS I feel like he is treated like a prince by all.
Anyone able to share some wisdom.
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Stepmum3 · 21/10/2018 10:41
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