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Hi, I'm new to this but I need some advice...

I have been with my partner for two years. My partner has 2 children with his (still) wife. I am a lot younger than them both but the ex hates me and I'm to blame for everything, the children's attitude, for taking the kids for hair cuts, for buying clothes. Everything I do in her eyes is wrong. It's really getting me down and causing arguments between me and my partner. I love the children more than anything, I have no children but my partner and myself are going to try for a baby. The ex is now trying to change contact after 2 years because she now has an Issue me taking the kids on my own on certain days as my partner works. I put everything into the kids and I don't have to but I wouldn't have it any other way but anything I do I feel as if I'm in the wrong. She makes me feel wrong for caring and loving the kids and I'm exhausted by her. Will it ever stop? She had told people her mission is to break me and my partner apart but now I feel as if the children are being affected by her actions and I feel it's my fault. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

In answer to your question about when it will stop?

My DH is divorced with 2 children, nearly 7yrs now. He’s never stopped having the same boring dramas with his ExBitch, I mean wife.

She will be all sweetness and light when she wants something, usually money, but the minute she gets what she thinks is her rightful merit, she’s back to railing against him. It’s so tedious. I have absolutely nothing to do with her now, she’s a waste of oxygen.

Now that DSS is 12, we arrange PU/DO with him (it’s always at exactly the same time, on exactly the same days, and only changes if one of them wants to stay with their hagbitch, I mean Mother) and only exceptions to normal daily jogging will be dealt with directly with her.

It’s taken a good couple of years for us to ‘train’ her to not get an immediate response to silly questions or demands that aren’t urgent, and I had to train DH to housetrain his stupid ex wife too. It’s been a struggle, but it’s never really over in terms of dealing with the crap. Hopefully she’ll get a love interest to distract her soon, she could do with some adult company.

Biological mothers??? Seriously!!?? My advise would be not to martyer yourself. No one will thank you in the end, least of all the children if you are bad mouthing their mother.

I have been hit with abuse for 2 years and never have I once said anything had to the kids or the mother. But there is only so much someone can take of being 'wrong' or put down for nothing