Hooray! Finally!!!

[heavymetalstepmum]

So, my partner and I have been together for 9 months.
He has a 5 year old daughter & ive only known her for 7 months.
For these 7 months, understandably the ex wife (child’s mother), has never let me take care of the daughter alone. She would go out of her way to get other people involved to look after the girl, rather than just drop her off at our home (where the daughter stays with us anyway).
So tonight, drum roll please.....
The ex wife (child’s mother), FINALLY gave permission for me to look after the daughter.....
and let’s be honest, I generally look after this little girl when she visits us anyway.... I let my partner sleep in on the weekends, I give her breakfast, pop the tv on & I have a coffee and breakfast with her.
The mother still has a few strange requests like;
No photos.
No bathing.
No taking to toilet.
No discipline.

that’s cool man. Whatever floats your boat.
I’m not comfortable doing any of those things anyway.... but I’m finally just glad, I’m trusted enough by the mother to finally let me start being a step parent!

[lunar1]

Your boyfriend sees his child 4 days a month. There is no need for you to be involved at all. He doesn't deserve a sleep in, he needs to get up when his daughter does and you need to butt out.

You sound deranged to be honest, how can the ex have made you feel anything from the minute you started dating. Why would she even know you existed? What did you do, start as a ONS get up in the morning and start making his dd breakfast?

If I was this girls mum, I'd have serious alarm bells ringing and would do everything to keep you away from her.

[NeverTwerkNaked]

Is this a reverse? Surely no one would think a man a “catch” who is so prepared to handover care of his daughter when he only had them 4 days a month

[jumblefun]

Jeepers.

[SparklyMagpie]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/divorce_separation/3272671-Frustrating

Anything else you want to moan about OP?

[HollyGibney]

I've read your other thread too. Your obsession with calling yourself a "step parent" and trying to get access to this child while erasing her mother is bloody weird. I wouldn't let you anywhere near my child.

[BitOutOfPractice]

This is one of those threads where I would love the exW to come on the thread and tell her side ie the truth

[StUmbrageinSkelt]

LOLWUT? You're a stepparent because you are a de facto family in Australian law?

www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/family-law-matters/separation-and-divorce/defacto-relationships/

You need to be living with him as domestic partners for two years. Even after that there's no such thing as you being a stepparent as you describe it. You are considered a couple for Centrelink purposes but that doesn't make you a de facto couple and it has nothing to do with your ex's child.

[Arum51]

This is... not good. OP, in the politest way possible, I wouldn't want you around my child. This little girl is not a doll to play with. She is not a prize for you to wrestle away from her mother.

Your boyfriend only sees his child 4 days a month. HE should be getting up and having breakfast with her, not you. HE needs to arrange his work schedule so that his contact time is spent with her, not you. As a pp pointed out, you've met this little girl 14 times, and you're her step mother? No, you are not. Please stop interfering in your boyfriend's relationship with his child for your own ends. Whatever it is you think you're doing, it's wrong.

[twattymctwatterson]

You sound mental op. The fact that you're calling a child you've met 14 times your step DD and basically complaining on another thread that you wish her mother didn't exist makes you sound utterly unhinged