My partner and I have been together 5 years and finally moved in to our own home together two months ago.
We finally got our dream house and our own space and it should be bliss, but his daughter is making my life Hell.
He has her every Monday, Wednesday and Friday after school and takes her home to her mother for half past 7. Every other weekend, he has her until the Sunday after picking her up from school on the Friday, so you can see that he has her quite a bit.
This said, she's become to him at the hip when she's here. He can't eat, shower or even go to the toilet without her following him.
Yesterday when he left her two rooms away and came in to the living room to talk to me, she called him and he said he'd be there in a minute which resulted in her bursting into tears and saying she was afraid and lonely.
It's like she doesn't want him around me. He's assured her plenty of times that he's not leaving her and I'm no threat, but she's forever inserting herself between us and has done for the past 5 years.
He gave me a hug a few days ago and she was over quick as a flash and hugging him. Yet when they're cuddled up together, I leave them to it.
Her behaviour seems a little abnormal, too. She had a 30 minute screaming tantrum yesterday because the tablet PC she was playing on had to be charged as the battery died. It was horrendous and there was no explaining it to her or reasoning with her.
She became hysterical a few days ago when my partner asked her if she wanted to take a cardigan to the theatre incase she became cold in there and she wouldn't calm down.
She constantly wants to be on the computer or tablet and has a strop when she's asked to come off it. She isn't interested in colouring or playing games and is becoming unbearable to be around.
On another note her diet is shocking. Her staple diet is sausage, potatoes, bread and crisps. When she's not eating those, she's eating chocolate and sweets.
She won't try anything else and point blank refuses. No one seems to want to address this, either. Not her mother, grand parents or even my partner, as no one knows what to do.
She's sallow skinned, thin and looks ill.
I suspect this doesn't help her behaviour or moods, but I'm not able to say anything or be proactive as I feel I'd be seen as interfering by her grand parents and mother.
I've got to my lowest point ever with all of it.
I can't cook family meals any more as she won't eat what we eat.
She makes sure when she's over that I'm not involved in anything that they're doing.
She doesn't even look at me any more and will blatantly ignore me.
It's awful to say, because she's only a child, but I can't stand her.
I hate the thought of being around her because no matter what I do, it's wrong.
She's such a horrible child that she's made me question whether I want children of my own with my partner.
I'm worried she'll end up driving a wedge between my partner and I. I know it must be hard for him too, because he's stuck in the middle, but she's making me so unhappy.
Has anyone else been through this? Is there light as the end of the tunnel?
Please don't judge me or tell me I'm a bad person. I don't need that. I just need reassurance and guidance.