Hey all. I'm looking for some advice.
I've been with my bf now for nearly 3 years. We are looking at moving in together but I'm feeling uncertain it's wise.
He has 3 girls who are nearly 16, 13 n 9.
They're are awesome kids but very messy. I'm forever asking them to put dishes in sink, turn off lights n clean any food mess they leave (when at my place ) The nearly 16 year old os the worst. The younger 2 most times do their best but she doesn't bother. She hides when she knows it's time to clean up.
I mentioned to bf yesterday he needs to start encouraging ALL of them to clean up.
Didn't mention names.
Later on I noticed a brown mark that was large on couch and asked if anyone has spilt anything.
He had a go at the girls n told them to be more careful (totally wasn't my intention at all. I normally don't say anything n clean up whatever it is)
Eldest said could be dog slobber (i checked that it wasn't wet before I said anything)
Before I knew it he was telling me I shouldn't point fingers etc.. Considering I asked a question I was pretty angry.
Later I said to him I rarely say anything n am hurt it became what it became.
Today we are doing our own thing. After nearly a month in each others pockets (the 2 of us went overseas for nearly 3 weeks)
Did I approach it wrong? Or is he being over sensitive (he said he felt like he had to defend his girls) His previous relationship before he n I seems to have been constant bickering between ex gf n his eldest. Maybe he's worried it will happen again?