Should i be obliged to have 2 step kids while mum goes out to party?

[confusedguy123]

Should i be obliged to have 2 step kids while mum goes out to party?

relationship has been less than a year, although we do live together, and admittedly she will do more around the house than i do, and i am at the moment unemployed, and money is a real issue for us. She says that a part of being a step parent is having the kids so she can go out all night, get trashed, and come back between 5 - 8am, which she calls letting her hair down.

i haven't been out once, but she has offered to be fair, but because i couldnt really afford it, and we haven't really been out together much recently, i felt a sense of guilt, and didn't really want to go out. and i have already looked after the kids for 1 night for her, although she was back much earlier than 5am

Kids are 4 and 9, and don't really take me that serioiusly, i try not to shout, but if i don't im hardly listened to, 9 year old has a pretty wild attitude for her age, but loving and caring when she's in the mood.

i fully intend to be working full time soon, So i'm wondering, is she right to expect me to take on the kids like that? would if differ with employment? shouldn't we be going out together instead? if its fair? i'm really unsure and would love some advice.

Thanks

[TammySwansonTwo]

Then again, in this situation, I don't think I'd want to leave my kids in your care. But then I haven't had a night out since my kids were born so what do I know?

[lifeandtheuniverse]

there are an awful lot of double standards on this forum.

When the question has been asked by an SM - should I be expected to babysit for my SDCs for one night because DP has some thing planned - the answer is always - no, he needs to sort his child care out, this is his time for his children and you are not free childcare for his EX.

Yet we all expect this SF do it!!!

[Frequency]

When has any woman ever come on to MN and said;

"I live, rent free with my boyfriend, who has his children full time. He works, I don't but he does more housework than me. AIBU to think he shouldn't expect me to watch his kids for the night while he goes out?

FYI, I was staying anyway as I'm skint. He has offered to fund nights out for me in the past but I think sponging off him full time while expecting him to cook and clean for me is enough, don't you agree?"

[TammySwansonTwo]

this is his time for his children

So you're talking about a guy who has hislods EOW but wants to go out one of those nights? Slightly different, isn't it?

So what's she meant to do, hire a babysitter and say "excuse my cocklodger boyfriend in the lounge, he didn't want to look after the kids"? Or should she only be allowed to go out with him?

[CharizMa]

Gawd, one night a month and you ask if you're ''obliged'' to mind your step children!?

She should end this now.

[SummatFishyEre]

Why aren't you pulling your weight around the house?

[annie2600]

I don't see any harm in baby sitting! Presume kids will go to bed latest 9pm so shouldn't be too difficult for you! Have a movie night with them at home with some snacks, they'll love it and minimal entertaining for you to do.