Stepkids and sickness

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Just wondering what people do when step kids are sick?

Dsd was sent home from school recently for throwing up everywhere (dm thinks another uti but refuses to take her to gp so we will have to at weekend), dsd doesn't like coming when she is sick, she wants to be at home with her mum. Last time her dm demanded she came to us and poor dsd sat in her room here sobbing for hours because she just wanted her mum. We get on great and she comes to me for most things but when ill she wants her mum.

Dp told his ex this and asked her to check with dsd, she refused and said dsd would have to come to us as she 'has nothing in to feed her'

If either dss or dsd is sick here we deal with it and the associated childcare required, but every time their dm demands she can't have them as her bf won't have sick kids in their house.

What do others do?

Bibidy, you missed the information that she didn't go to OP but stayed at home with her mum once her mum got to speak with her DD. It's just that mum got to hear it from the father before her DD.

wheres I agree - not much you can do if her mum doesn't want/can't look after her. But what do you tell the child in this situation? It's tough for a child to feel rejected when they are poorly and want to feel that the world revolves around them for a little bit.
I imagine that children may prefer one parent or another when they are sick or at other traumatic times. That makes sense to me.
But, along the thread, a couple of mums mentioned that a sick child just wants to be in 'their own bed'. I know that when my partner's daughter is with us, when she goes to bed, she is going to 'her own bed'. She's still little - but I hope she always feels that way and I hope she understands and accepts that it happens that in her life she has two beds.

I had this, the kids were sometimes very sick. Although they didn’t say they wanted their mum, but I knew the last thing they wanted was to be shoved mid sickness over to our house.

To be honest I just made them comfortable and looked after them and didn’t cause a fuss with their Mum. And this was things like severe asthma and vomiting bugs, and bad mouth bleed. In fact when one of them was very sick off school she called me first, not her mum or dad. Despite the fact I don’t have a car.

It’s crap. And you’ll get no acknowledgement. My step daughters don’t bother to even come round to see me despite being the main go to for sickness for years. But... a child’s sick you just give them reassurance and control what you can. You can’t control their mothers behaviour. Only what you can do for the kids.