Every other Sunday DP picks up DSD at 5pm. That’s not the only time he sees her btw, just the arrangement for pick up. They share 50/50
Lately the ex doesn’t always want him to pick up from her house. She wants pick up to be wherever she is that day, usually at the ex’s friends house or at the pub. She never asks “would it be ok if you picked up from....”, it’s usually more of a tell. For example yday it was a text saying please pick up from.....
Now DP is flexible. He would understand if it’s a special occasion or something was happening with family, or DSD was at a party etc but this usually surrounds ex’s Social life
DP is trying to get into a routine of having a catch up on these Sundays face to face to discuss various bits about DSD. Also he did agree to it once and it upset DSD who was playing outside and did t want to leave. He just doesnt think picking up from the pub or ex’s friends houses is right on a regular basis. He’s also fed up of the Saturday night or Sunday texts saying pick up from x,y,z instead. He’d prefer pick ups are consistent but ex is throwing a fit saying he’s unreasonable and it’s not in their dd best interests
What do you think? Are we being a bit too rigid?