My SS is 11 years old, starts secondary school in September.
He has always enjoyed spending time with his dad and I and being at our house. He has friends who live near to us and also has friends near to his mums house (20 min drive from us)
Since the school hols he has been wanting to spend less and less time with us which is upsetting, especially for my OH. We usually see him at least two nights a week and every other weekend.
My OH asked him why he hasn't wanted to come much over the last few weeks and SS has said our rules are not as good as mums for him going out. We obviously asked him to go into further detail about this...
We allow him to play on the quiet street with friends on his scooter/bike and also allow him to go to the park and field across the road from ours to play football but he must have his phone on him if over at the field and off the field by 7pm and comes indoors at 8pm but during the holidays or weekend nights he can have a friend at ours until 9pm (if ok with said friends parents)
We thought his mum had similar rules to us and always actually thought that it was us who were easier going.
Well turns out that she has decided that now he will be at secondary school in September that he is ok to go out as early at 9am and come home 9pm if he wishes, sometimes without his phone and he has said he often just goes with some money to get himself some lunch and tea!! We asked him where he goes and he said 'wherever I like, mum doesn't mind'
My OH is planning on having a chat with her about all this and raise his concerns as neither of us think this is ok for an 11 year old child.
Any thoughts/opinions on this would be helpful?
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11 year old SS
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Chanceit · 13/08/2017 21:08
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