Hi everyone. I am almost at the end of my tether ... Please can you tell me if I am being crazy . Brief history : married for nearly 8 years . 2 children of our own ( aged 8 and 2 weeks old baby) ... Have had 2 step sons living with us full time for past 10 years . At present here is the situation : step son 1 is 22 and has never had a job more than a few weeks since he left school 5 years ago .. He spends his days doing what he likes , coming and going at all hours of the night . I have found a large bag of cannabis in his room and he constantly smells of the drug when he returns home late at night .He is not a bad person, he will help when I ask but he is not making any effort to get work or education . Step son 2 (just turned 18) is another story : dropped out of school last December ... Not worked a day since .he stays in bed until 3 pm , gets up and goes on his phone 24/7 and then stays up all night watching crap on to, leaves his clothes all over the bedroom floor ( which he shares with my 8 year old daughter) and never lifts a finger round the house. Has a history of going on websites to meet men for sex ( my husband actually caught him 2 weeks ago ... He was staying at my mother in laws house .. Went on Grindr and 2 men turned up outside while he had the intention of going off with them in their car, except my husband caught him in the act . He has said he doesn't care , he likes the risk and everyone does it . And all of this comes after he actually went with a guy in January and then made a complaint to the police that he had been attacked and drugged by this man... The case is still ongoing . He smokes canabis also and is now allowed to smoke cigarettes in the garden ... I detest smoking and eve n more so with the new baby .
I am reaching the end of my tether here . I have been fighting every day for the past few weeks with my husband over this situation , but it feels like he is not prepared to give either of them an ultimatum : get a job or move out !!!
I work full time but now I am on maternity leave I'm feeling like a stranger in my own home .
Is there anyone else who has this sort of issue or anyone who could advise me what to do ? Much appreciated xx.