I have 2 DCs with Ex - whom he says once in a blue bloody moon, ie, less than 15 ONs per annum and sees them 2-3 hrs per week max but not every week. Has taken them on holiday for one week twice in 3 yrs.
We calculate maintenance on the basis of the lowest contact rate, then he makes up his own lower figure!!!
He went off had a relationship and another child. This relationship has now ended and he is having said child 3 days one week/ 4 days the next. ( sharp learning curve in the practicalities of being a single parent!!!)
His second EX is now calculating her maintenance on the basis that she has his DC 174 days per annum.
So she thinks the whole 12 % for one child, 16 % for two and 22% for 3 should be divided by her having 15% and me 8%. She is a class act!!
Anyone have any idea how this would be worked out?
Personally have given up expecting him to be a decent father to his two eldest DCs, either financially or emotionally. But I am buggered if I am going to take an even bigger cut in what little he gives for his parental responsibility, when I do 350 days of parenting per annum for two and she does 174 for one. They are in mediation at the moment, which I am not allowed to be party of or influence the financial decisions. Their first financial plan had EX providing nothing for my 7 and 4 yr old and all maintenance going to his 2 yr old, on the basis that the youngest had the most growing up to do.
Yes they both deserved each other - twunts does not come into it!!!
anyone have any experience of this situation - many thanks